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WOLFPACK: How to Come Together, Unleash Our Power, and Change the Game

Shows women how to drop the old rules of obedience, quiet gratitude, perfectionism and rivalry with other women, and build a pack that asks for equality, celebrates each other and leads together.

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Many women are still playing by rules they never agreed to: stay on the path, be thankful for what you get, and treat other women as rivals for a small share of power. In Wolfpack, Abby Wambach, a two-time Olympic champion and 2015 World Cup winner with the US women’s soccer team, argues that every one of those rules deserves to be broken. Her claim is that women grow stronger when they stop competing with each other and start running together.

Drawing on nearly two decades on the field, Wambach swaps the old rules for new ones. Leave the path when your heart says so. Ask for equality instead of settling for thanks. Treat failure as fuel, play at full strength, cheer the woman who scores, lead as yourself and find your pack. Each rule rests on a moment from her career: a photo of a lost match, a legend who demanded the ball four times, a coach with a guitar. Together they offer a way to claim your power at work and at home, and to help the women around you claim theirs.

A fairytale has warned girls for generations about what waits in the woods. Wambach looked back at her own life and found that the warning pointed in exactly the wrong direction.

On the night she received one of sport’s grandest honors, Wambach went to bed furious. The cause was standing on the same stage beside her, and the numbers behind it reach far beyond soccer.

In the locker room of the best women’s team in the world, the photo on the wall showed a game they had lost. The reason they kept it there changed how Wambach treated every setback after.

At eighteen, Wambach faced one of the greatest players in the world in a friendly training match. In the final minutes, one shouted demand showed her exactly what she had been holding back.

Each time Wambach scores, you can spot the same small gesture right after the ball strikes the net. It carries a view of success that most workplaces have never learned.

The best team in the world won by intimidation, and its captains gave the orders. Then a new coach walked in with a guitar, and gradually even the physiotherapists were offering suggestions.

After seventeen years of elite training, a gentle running program left Wambach aching all over. A friend saw that the problem had nothing to do with her legs, and many ordinary women recognized it too.

Wambach’s book comes down to one swap. Give up the role of the girl who must stay on the path, grateful, flawless and wary of other girls, and take up the role of the wolf, who runs with others. Every story she tells shows the old rules costing women something, whether a salary, a full game or a friend, and a pack giving it back.

None of this needs a stadium. Wambach insists that leadership is not something another person hands you. Being stuck at home with the children, or passed over for a promotion, does not take it away. Helping a parent through an illness or cheering a child at their first soccer game is leadership too, and choosing your own direction is every woman’s right.

The coming week offers small places to start. When a woman near you succeeds, point at her the way Wambach points at her teammates, loudly and first. When you next feel thankful just to be in the room, keep the thanks and ask for what you are owed anyway. And if you have been running alone, call one woman you trust.

The woods were never the danger. Walking into them alone was.

About this book

What is this book about?

Many women still follow rules they never chose: stay on the expected path, be thankful for whatever you receive, never fail in public, and treat other women as rivals for a small share of power. Abby Wambach, a two-time Olympic champion and World Cup winner with the US women's national soccer team, argues that these rules keep women small and alone. Drawing on nearly two decades of playing alongside other women, Wambach offers new rules. She explains why a lost match deserved a place on the locker room wall, how a legend calling for the ball taught her to stop holding back, and what a coach with a guitar showed a dominant team about leadership. She sets the gap between her own retirement and those of Kobe Bryant and Peyton Manning against hard numbers on unequal pay. Readers get a short, practical case for treating other women as a wolf pack: asking for what they are owed, using their full ability, cheering each other's wins, leading as themselves and seeking out women they trust.

Book Information

Rating:

Genre:

Motivation & Inspiration, Social Issues

Topics:

Gender, Leadership, Self-Confidence

Publisher:

Macmillan

Language:

English, ไทย

Narrator:

Peter

First published:

April 9, 2019

Pages:

112

Length:

13 min 22 sec

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Who it's for

  • Women downplaying their ambition

    Women early in their careers who hold back so they won't seem too ambitious.

  • Managers and team leads

    Managers and team leads who want to replace top-down control with a team where everyone speaks.

  • Women wanting allies

    Women who feel like the only one in the room and want allies around them.

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About the Author

Abby Wambach

Abby Wambach played for the US women's national soccer team from 2003 to 2015, winning Olympic gold in 2004 and 2012 and the FIFA Women's World Cup in 2015. She was named FIFA World Player of the Year in 2012. She wrote the bestselling memoir Forward, co-hosts the podcast We Can Do Hard Things, is a founder of the media company Treat Media and co-founded Wolfpack Endeavor, which works on leadership development for women.

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Overall score based on 57 ratings.

What people think

Listeners find this work both motivating and emboldening, offering impactful leadership insights and actionable paths to achievement. They value its readability, noting it can be finished in a single session, while one listener characterizes it as a "perfectly worded pep-talk." The book earns high marks for its message, with one review highlighting how it reaches inside them as women, and listeners admire the concise prose. Opinions on the book's size vary, as several listeners mention that it is quite brief.

Top reviews

Bun

This book is a concentrated dose of adrenaline for any woman feeling stuck in the old 'rules' of leadership. Abby Wambach has managed to articulate exactly what it feels like to be a woman in a male-dominated workspace without sounding bitter or tired. I finished the entire thing in a single sitting, and while it is definitely short, every sentence feels intentionally weighted. Her transition from soccer icon to a voice for systemic change is seamless and incredibly authentic. Frankly, the way she reframes gratitude as a tool used to keep us in line was a total lightbulb moment for me. If you need a quick, powerful reminder of your own capacity for greatness, this is the perfect manifesto. I’m already planning on buying several copies for my team.

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Thawee

After hearing Brene Brown rave about this, I finally sat down to devour it and I am so glad I did. Not gonna lie, I don't know the first thing about soccer, but that didn't matter one bit because these lessons are universal. Wambach talks about the 'Wolf' inside every woman—the part of us that existed before the world started making us feel small and quiet. Her writing style is succinct and punchy, making it easy to absorb the message even if you only have twenty minutes to spare. It’s the kind of book that reaches inside you and asks you to demand more for yourself and your pack. Every woman in a leadership position needs to hear this specific message about building a bigger table rather than fighting for a single seat.

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Ava

Every single page of this little manifesto felt like a personal invitation to stop playing by the old rules and start creating new ones. Wambach’s voice is so raw and honest, particularly when she discusses the transition from being a world-class athlete to wondering how she would pay her bills. The way she dismantles the myth of scarcity among women is nothing short of brilliant. Truth is, we are often told there is only room for one woman at the top, but Abby shows us why that’s a lie designed to keep us divided. I listened to the audio version narrated by the author and it was so impactful that I immediately bought the physical copy. I need to highlight every other sentence so I can return to these reminders whenever I feel my confidence wavering.

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Chamnong

Wow, I didn't realize how much I needed a jock's perspective on dismantling the patriarchy until I turned the last page of this book. Abby is so authentic and raring to go, and her energy is absolutely infectious from start to finish. She doesn't waste time with fluff or academic jargon; instead, she gives you straight-from-the-hip advice on how to lead from wherever you are. The section about 'claiming your power' hit me like a ton of bricks because I realized how often I apologize for just existing. It’s a fierce, emotional, and necessary call to arms for women of all ages. This isn't just a book; it's a movement in the making. I'm ready to run with the wolves now!

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Cooper

The chapter regarding the myth of scarcity is worth the price of the book alone. Abby explains so clearly how we are conditioned to fight each other for the 'singular seat' instead of just building a bigger table. Her writing is direct, punchy, and filled with a kind of grace that only comes from someone who has won and lost at the highest levels. I love the ending quote about the wolf inside every woman being who she was before the world told her who to be. It’s a short read, yes, but it’s packed with so much wisdom that I find myself thinking about it daily. This is the kind of book you keep in your bag for those moments when you need to remember exactly who the hell you are.

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Phu

Picked this up during a particularly rough week at the office and it was the mental reset I desperately required. Abby Wambach uses her experiences on the field to illustrate how we can support one another instead of competing for scraps. The chapter on 'Point to the Passer' really resonated with me because it highlights the importance of shared success over individual ego. My only real gripe is that it’s so brief that I felt like I was just getting into the groove when it suddenly ended. However, the succinctness also makes it a very accessible read for people who usually avoid dry leadership books. It’s a beautifully worded pep-talk that feels like a warm hug and a kick in the pants at the same time.

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Audrey

Why aren't we talking more about the shift from individual competition to collective power that Wambach proposes here? The book is essentially a blueprint for a new type of feminine leadership that values community over hierarchy. I appreciated how she used soccer analogies to explain complex social dynamics without making it feel like a sports book. The writing is incredibly sharp, though I'll admit the formatting is a bit distracting with its huge margins and sparse text. Despite the brevity, the core messages about reclaiming your power and finding your pack are incredibly moving. It would make an absolutely perfect graduation gift for a young woman entering the workforce for the first time. It is a quick read, but the impact lingers long after you close the cover.

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Adam

In my experience, most self-help books are about 200 pages too long, so I actually appreciated how condensed and focused this was. Abby gets straight to the point about why women need to stop being 'grateful' for the crumbs and start demanding the whole cake. The way she frames leadership as an internal decision rather than a title is very empowering for those of us in entry-level roles. Personally, I found the 'Wolfpack' rules to be a great framework for evaluating my own friendships and professional networks. My only criticism is that I wanted more personal anecdotes from her time on the USWNT to ground the advice. Still, it’s a powerful little volume that manages to deliver a lot of heart in a very small package.

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Wacharapol

To be fair, I went into this expecting a deep dive into organizational leadership, but what I got was essentially a transcript of a commencement speech. The ideas presented are genuinely fantastic, particularly the concept of 'making failure your fuel,' yet I found myself wishing for more actionable steps to implement in my daily life. It is laughingly short, with massive font and a lot of white space that makes it feel more like a gift book than a substantial read. I love Abby’s spirit and her voice is undeniably powerful, but if you’ve already watched her 2018 Barnard speech on YouTube, you won’t find much new material here. It’s a nice little pep-talk for the coffee table, but don't expect a dense manual on management.

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Bunyarit

Look, I love what Abby stands for as an athlete and an advocate, but this shouldn't have been marketed as a full-length hardcover book. It felt like a very expensive pamphlet with a lot of double-spaced pages and blank sections to pad the length. While the sentiment is lovely and the 'Wolfpack' metaphor is strong, there is a total lack of depth or new research to support the claims. I was disappointed that it was almost word-for-word the same as the speech she gave a few years ago. It felt like a bit of a cash grab rather than a revolution in self-help literature. If you want inspiration, just watch the video for free; the book doesn't offer enough expansion to justify the price tag.

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Questions about this book

Wambach argues that women are held back by old rules: stay on the expected path, be grateful instead of asking for more, never fail, and see other women as rivals. She replaces them with new rules drawn from her soccer career. Women should leave the path when it doesn’t fit, demand equality, treat failure as fuel, play at full strength, celebrate each other, lead authentically and build a pack of women they trust.

After receiving an Icon Award at the ESPYS in 2015, Wambach realized that Kobe Bryant and Peyton Manning could retire comfortably while she had to find another job. She notes that the 2018 men’s World Cup winners took home nineteen times what the 2015 women’s champions got. She believes women are often so grateful to be included that they fear asking for more, and urges them to speak up.

Wambach learned from the senior US women’s team, who kept a photo of their 1995 World Cup loss to Norway in their locker room. They used every defeat as fuel to come back stronger, and won their first Olympic gold the following year. She argues that women often believe they must be perfect, so a single failure makes them feel like frauds. Remembering losses as motivation breaks that pattern.

When coach Pia Sundhage joined the dominant US team in 2008, she sang a Bob Dylan song with her guitar at the first training session. Her openness showed that leaders can be themselves instead of acting tough. The team grew more democratic: young players like Alex Morgan advised Wambach, bench players advised starters and physiotherapists made suggestions. Wambach says any team gains when leaders listen to everyone.

It suits women who feel isolated at work or at home, who hold back their talent to avoid resentment, or who hesitate to ask for fair pay. Team leads looking for a more open, listening style of leadership will also find useful stories. The book is short and direct, built around moments from Wambach’s career, from Michelle Akers demanding the ball to a viral commencement speech at Barnard College.

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