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This Dog Will Change Your Life

Friedman shows how dogs, bred over thousands of years to read our moods, give their owners daily structure, honest companionship, easier connections with people and a path out of isolation, and what they ask in return.

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If your days feel rushed, scattered or lonely, a dog may do more for you than another productivity plan. In This Dog Will Change Your Life, Elias Weiss Friedman, the photographer behind The Dogist, argues that dogs reshape the people who care for them: they slow us down, give our days a shape and draw us back toward other humans.

His case rests on the stories he has gathered while photographing dogs and their owners, and on his own change from a dog photographer with no dog to a devoted owner. Friedman’s argument is that dogs, bred over thousands of years to tune in to us, mirror who we are and pull us out of our own heads, provided we treat them as family and never as accessories.

Along the way you will meet a stubborn Basset Hound, a scarred rescue watched millions of times, prison inmates raising puppies and a Golden Retriever that got a veteran out of her house. Each one shows what a dog gives, and what it asks of you in return.

The head tilt your dog gives you when you sound sad did not appear by accident. It began beside an ice-age campfire, and that history still decides which dog will fit your life.

Friedman warned his friend that the puppy he wanted would bring infections, shedding and stubbornness. He was right about all of it, and wrong about what it would do to his friend’s life.

A scarred rescue dog in New York became one of Friedman’s most surprising posts, with a video played over 14 million times. The reason says a lot about what people crave, and about a kind of honesty most of us rarely meet.

Small talk with strangers can feel awkward and draining. A dog changes where everyone looks, and therapists already use the same trick to make hard conversations feel lighter.

A friend Friedman had known since high school suddenly looked different to him. What changed was not her but the way she treated someone else in the room, and it reshaped his whole future.

A veteran had not left her house in over two years and believed she did not deserve help. A Golden Retriever disagreed, and the way it reached her shows what dogs can do for anyone under strain.

Friedman’s book adds up to a claim about attention. Dogs live in the present, curious and direct, and living beside them pulls our attention there too: off the phone, out the door, onto a stranger’s greeting or a wary animal’s slow return to trust. The bargain struck at the edge of an ice-age camp still holds. Dogs read us, and in return we have to learn to read them and give back the patience and loyalty they show.

That is also the price. Gertie’s ear drops, Lunchbox’s scars and Elsa’s sprint out the door all show that a dog is family, and the change in the owner comes through the daily work of care.

If you are thinking about a dog, match the breed’s old job to the life you actually live, and consider an older rescue with a story already in motion. If you have one, keep the walk at a fixed time and treat every paw, tilt and nudge as a message. And if you have no dog at all, find one to sit beside, at a friend’s home or on a hospital visit, and see what a few minutes do to a hard week.

Wolves once chose to stay near the fire. When we let them, Friedman suggests, they still draw us closer to it.

About this book

What is this book about?

Many people feel rushed, distracted or cut off, and they try to fix it with apps, plans and willpower. Elias Weiss Friedman, the photographer behind The Dogist, points to a simpler source of change: the dog at the end of the leash. Friedman starts with the ice-age bargain between early humans and the bolder, gentler wolves that hung around their camps, a partnership that reshaped both species. He then follows that old bond into modern lives. A stubborn Basset Hound gives a friend a morning routine. A scarred rescue teaches its owner patience. A Husky mix who first arrived as a temporary guest rearranges Friedman's own dating life and leads him to the woman he now plans to marry. Prison inmates, veterans with post-traumatic stress and a woman who had not left her home in two years all find their way back to people through dogs. Readers get a warm, story-driven case for what dogs do for us, along with practical ideas: choosing a dog that fits your life, reading its silent signals, using the daily walk to connect, and treating the animal as family rather than as an accessory.

Book Information

Rating:

Genre:

Nature & the Environment

Topics:

Loneliness

Publisher:

Penguin Random House

Language:

English

Narrator:

Meredith

First published:

June 3, 2025

Pages:

304

Length:

15 min 01 sec

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Who it's for

  • Considering getting a dog

    People thinking about getting or adopting a dog who want to know what it will ask of them.

  • Curious dog owners

    Dog owners curious about why their pet has changed their routines, friendships and moods.

  • Stressed or isolated

    Anyone feeling stressed or isolated who wonders how animals help people reconnect.

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About the Author

Elias Weiss Friedman

Elias Weiss Friedman is a photographer, creative director and producer who created The Dogist, an online project of candid dog portraits and their stories with more than 11 million followers. He has photographed over 50,000 dogs, including President Biden's dog Commander at the White House, and he is an official photographer for the Westminster dog show and the Puppy Bowl. Through The Dogist Fund he supports groups such as Puppies Behind Bars, Best Friends Animal Society and the ASPCA.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

4.1

Overall score based on 36 ratings.

What people think

Listeners find the book approachable and absorbing, featuring touching stories of canines and their human companions. The writing is skillfully executed, and listeners value the author’s individual observations, with one listener noting how it provides a unique outlook on the bond between owners and pets. Listeners characterize the book as delightful and cheering, with one remarking that it overflows with positive vibes.

Top reviews

Zanya

As someone who recently lost their soul-pup, the chapter on the passing of a pet was exactly the cathartic experience I needed. It is a treasure of a book that explores how these animals don't just occupy our homes, but actually settle into our souls. Truth is, I cried through several sections because the storytelling is so compassionate and grounded in real-world love. Friedman captures the essence of 'everyday dogs' perfectly, showing that a dog doesn't need a job like herding to be meaningful. This book will change your life if you allow yourself to lean into the emotional lessons they teach us about patience and commitment. Truly a heartwarming read that I'll be gifting to every pet parent I know.

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Ellie

The chapter on dogs and children is worth the price of admission alone. It perfectly articulates how a pet can instill a sense of empathy and responsibility in a child from a very young age. This book is a love letter to the bond between species. Not gonna lie, I was worried it would be too focused on the author’s fame, but he really brings it back to the animals. The storytelling is heartwarming and provides a refreshing look at why we need dogs more than they need us. Every chapter feels like a new lesson in coexistence and unconditional love. It’s an engaging, feel-good atmosphere from start to finish. I highly recommend the physical copy to keep as a reference for the breed info.

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Pong

This book is a must-read for anyone who feels that their dog has saved them in some way. Elias captures that specific, soul-deep connection with such clarity and grace. I found the smooth narrative flow very relaxing, and it’s one of those books you can pick up and put down easily. It’s full of heartwarming tales that remind us how dogs teach us about forgiveness and staying present in the moment. The author's passion for rescue operations is evident and inspiring. It really shifted my perspective on how I interact with my own rescue pup. Even without the glossy photos, the imagery created by his words is vivid and emotional. A truly wonderful, life-affirming read.

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Harper

Picked this up because I’ve followed The Dogist for years, and while the lack of photos is a total bummer, the message still hits home. Frankly, the writing is well-crafted and keeps you moving through the chapters quite effortlessly. Elias does a great job explaining why certain breeds fit specific lifestyles, which is information every potential owner needs. It’s an uplifting read that focuses heavily on the optimistic energy dogs bring into our mundane lives. I did find some of the historical bits a little surface-level, but the personal insights into his journey as a photographer were genuinely engaging. If you can get past the missing visuals, it’s a solid addition to any dog lover’s shelf.

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Sophia

Ever wonder why we are so obsessed with our four-legged friends? Friedman attempts to answer this by showing how dogs serve as a sympathetic mirror for our own humanity. The prose is smooth and the book has a very accessible style that makes it perfect for a weekend read. I especially appreciated the sections on how to properly research a breed before committing to a decade of care. Too many people pick a dog based on looks rather than lifestyle, and this book tackles that mistake head-on. It’s full of positive vibes and reminds us that dogs essentially teach us how to be better versions of ourselves. A few parts felt slightly repetitive, but the overall message is beautiful.

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Michael

To be fair, I went into this expecting a photo book, so the text-heavy format was a surprise. Once I adjusted my expectations, I found a very thoughtfully written memoir about the power of the dog-human connection. Friedman’s personal insights into the various dogs he’s met on the streets of NYC add a unique layer to the narrative. The book offers a different perspective on the responsibility of ownership that goes beyond just feeding and walking. It’s about the emotional labor and the reward of that deep, silent understanding. My only gripe is that some of the stories ended a bit abruptly without much closure. Still, it’s an uplifting and engaging read for anyone who considers their dog a family member.

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Takeshi

After hearing about this on social media, I was curious to see if the Dogist could actually write as well as he takes photos. I was pleasantly surprised by how engaging the prose turned out to be. He has a way of weaving together personal stories with broader lessons about animal husbandry and care. The book provides a different perspective on the 'everyday dog' and why their simple presence is a gift. It’s a very easy read that doesn't demand too much of you but leaves you feeling better about the world. To be honest, I think some of the critiques about the dry narration are a bit harsh; I found the matter-of-fact tone quite refreshing. It’s a solid 4-star read for anyone who needs a dose of canine-induced joy.

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Pim

Finally got around to reading this and I have mixed feelings about the tone. While the stories about rescues and the history of the human-canine bond are fascinating, the author occasionally comes off as judgmental. There are moments where he describes other people’s struggles with their pets in a way that felt a bit condescending. The book is definitely an easy read and offers some different perspectives on how we view our pets, but it avoids the tougher ethical questions in the dog world. It’s a breezy narrative for a casual fan of his Instagram page. However, if you're looking for a deep, scholarly dive into canine behavior, you might find this a bit shallow. It’s a fine coffee table read minus the actual photos.

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Pranee

Look, I love dog stories as much as the next person, but this felt a bit like a missed opportunity. The writing is technically fine and the stories are pleasant, but it lacks the 'punch' I was hoping for. It feels like a very safe, middle-of-the-road book that doesn't want to ruffle any feathers. I liked the practical advice on breed pairing, but the memoir portions felt a bit dry in places. Personally, I think the author’s voice works better in short captions than in long-form chapters. It’s an okay book if you’re a die-hard fan of The Dogist social media. For others, it might just feel like a collection of anecdotes that don't quite build to a grand conclusion.

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Sudarat

Not what I expected from the guy who usually lets the dogs do the talking. I opted for the audiobook, but I found the narration surprisingly devoid of real emotion. It felt flat, which is jarring when you're listening to stories that should be heartwarming. Also, the focus stays way too much on his personal 'The Dogist' brand rather than the dogs themselves. To be fair, there is some good info on breed needs, but most of the stories felt like they were missing a deeper connection. The lack of photos in a book by a famous photographer is a baffling choice that makes the whole experience feel incomplete. I really wanted to love this, but it just didn’t click for me.

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Questions about this book

Elias Weiss Friedman, creator of The Dogist, argues that dogs transform the people who care for them. Bred over thousands of years from wolves that lingered near human camps, dogs read our moods and mirror us. Through stories of owners, rescues, service dogs and his own Husky mix Elsa, he shows how dogs give structure, teach emotional honesty, ease human connection and help people heal.

Friedman points to the daily walk. When someone stops to greet your dog, both of you look at the dog, so the conversation feels natural. He links this to the shared focus therapists use to ease talks. He also describes how watching someone care for a dog shows they are capable of love, which let him view his friend Sam in a new way.

Friedman cites a University of Minnesota finding that people who own dogs face a lower risk of heart disease, and of death overall, and he credits it to dogs getting people off the couch and outside. He also describes service dogs helping veterans with post-traumatic stress, including one who slept six straight hours after starting to work with a dog.

Friedman sees real reward in it. An older dog arrives with a past, like Lunchbox, a scarred rescue whose video drew more than 14 million plays. Building trust takes openness, acceptance, patience and consistency, but dogs can change when given the chance, and he argues that taking part in that change is deeply rewarding for the owner too.

Know a breed’s challenges and whether they suit your real routine, as Friedman’s friend Jeff did when he picked a Basset Hound to join his long couch reading sessions. Learn your dog’s silent cues, such as a paw on your lap. Keep a regular walk and let it open conversations. And treat the dog as family, since Friedman argues that caring for it is how we learn to care for ourselves.

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