A Long Way Gone: Memoirs of a Boy Soldier
Ishmael Beah
Novelist Isabel Allende traces her lifelong feminism from her mother's humiliation in Chile to a circle of women in Kenya. She shows how patriarchy diminishes women's love, talent, bodies and age, and how women win them back.

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In Isabel Allende’s Chilean childhood, a girl’s anger was a reason to see doctors, while the same temper in a boy passed for character. In The Soul of a Woman, the novelist, now in her seventies, uses that double standard to open a lifelong argument with patriarchy, which she defines as a system granting men privileges that are often hard to see.
Her mother, abandoned and scorned, gave her the first lesson. Love, work, beauty, the body and old age gave her the rest. In each, Allende shows patriarchy shrinking what women feel, make and are, and women reclaiming it by being heard and by gathering together. Her stories, from a secret clinic in Chile to a rescue campaign in Nepal and a circle of widows in Kenya, give a listener words for the unfair rules around them and a picture of what could replace them.
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A furious little girl in Chile was taken to doctors, as if her temper were a disease. Allende looks back at that visit and finds in it the first clue to a system most people never notice.
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A fierce young feminist married at 20 out of fear of a single word, then later fled to another continent for a musician. Allende is frank about what romance has cost her, and what it costs women generally.
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A gifted painter spent years copying other artists so no one could accuse her of pride. Her daughter became a celebrated novelist and still waited decades for respect. The same bias shows up on today’s price tags.
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Allende puts on makeup every morning, even to write alone in her attic. She sees no conflict with her politics. The conflict lies elsewhere, and it reaches from the lipstick counter to a secret clinic in Chile.
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A film star credits spaghetti for aging well, and Allende tried it once. Her real model is a friend in her nineties whose answer has nothing to do with diet and a great deal to do with buses in Nepal.
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A thief in old Baghdad saved his hands with one answer to a king’s riddle. Centuries later, Allende put the same riddle to a search engine and found an answer she flatly rejects.
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On a roadside in India, a stranger pressed a newborn into Allende’s arms and would not take her back. That moment, and a village of widows in Kenya, shaped her view of how a fairer world gets built.
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Allende’s life reads as a long refusal of small verdicts that add up to a large injustice: the defiant girl taken to doctors, the painter who copied others to avoid seeming proud, the older woman expected to fade. Each time, patriarchy makes something women value cost them, and each time the answer starts with a woman who declines to shrink.
She ends at home during the coronavirus pandemic, with two dogs and her third husband, Roger. He heard her on the radio and wrote to her. She answered, and for five months he wrote every morning and every night until they met, in 2016. The passion that once sent her to Spain still shapes her life, now on her own terms. Each morning she greets the spirits of family she has lost and gives thanks for love, health and writing.
The book asks for modest, steady acts. Name a double standard when you meet one. Price your work by its quality. Use the freedom that comes with age. And ask women what they want, then stay long enough to listen, the way the widows of Kibisom sat in their circle and sang.
As a small girl in Chile, Isabel Allende watched her abandoned mother endure gossip and scorn, and saw the family's maids work long days for almost nothing. Her fury at that unfairness was so open that her mother consulted doctors about it. Decades later, the novelist still treats that moment as the start of a lifelong quarrel with patriarchy, which she describes as a system that hands men privileges that are often hard to see. In The Soul of a Woman, Allende follows that system through the parts of a woman's life it touches: romance and its unequal rules, talent that goes unpriced, beauty sold back as insecurity, control over the body, and the way aging women are told to fade. She draws on her own marriages and mistakes, her early years as a magazine journalist, a secret abortion she helped a frightened 15-year-old obtain, and the work of her friend Olga Murray in Nepal. Readers get a personal, warm and angry account of how double standards work, and a picture of the remedy Allende believes in: listening to what women want, investing in them, and building circles of women who support each other.
Women tired of being called difficult for traits praised in men, who want words for what they see.
Readers of Allende's novels curious about the life and convictions behind them.
Managers, parents and mentors who want to understand what the women around them need.
Isabel Allende was born in Lima, Peru, grew up in Chile and has lived in California since 1989. Her first novel, The House of the Spirits, appeared in 1982, followed by books including Eva Luna, City of the Beasts and Daughter of Fortune, many of them centered on women's lives and drawn from her own experience and from history. She won the American Book Award in 1989, Chile's National Literature Prize in 2010 and the US Presidential Medal of Freedom in 2014. In 1996, following the death of her daughter Paula, she founded a charity in Paula's name.
Listeners find this book to be a superb listen with relatable wisdom and evocative ideas, particularly appreciating its feminist viewpoint. The narrative style is candid and revitalizing, and listeners describe it as moving, with one listener noting it provides an emotional journey. They admire the author’s power and bravery, and one listener mentions how it makes personal growth easier. Listeners value the book's ethical stance, with one listener highlighting its focus on justice and equality.
Picked this up on a whim after seeing a friend's recommendation, and I’m so glad I did. Isabel Allende delivers an emotional journey that feels like a long, wine-filled conversation with a wise grandmother who has seen it all. She writes with such strength and courage about her early life, especially the formative years watching her mother struggle for independence. The book isn't just a dry history of the feminist movement; it is a living, breathing meditation on what it means to be a woman in a world that often ignores us. I found her perspective on aging to be particularly refreshing and honest. Instead of the usual dread, she embraces her wrinkles as markers of her story. It’s heartening to see someone speak about their vulnerability without confusing it for weakness. This book is a true gift for anyone looking for relatable insights into personal growth and justice.
Show moreWow, what a punchy and defiant little book this turned out to be! I opted for the audiobook version, and hearing her reflections on her own life lessons was a truly intimate experience. Allende has a way of making you feel empowered through her own stories of rebellion, starting from her childhood in Chile where she first noticed the unfairness of the patriarchal system. She speaks with such frankness about sexuality, her three marriages, and the value of female friendships. It’s a powerful reminder that feminism isn't a static concept but a living movement that changes like the tides. Her voice is full of contentment now, yet that fiery spirit from her younger days as a journalist clearly hasn't faded. I highly recommend this to anyone needing a reminder that we can rise together and push the boundaries of what is expected of us.
Show moreIn my experience, few authors can blend the personal and the political as seamlessly as Isabel Allende does in this memoir. She treats her life as a canvas to explain the broader necessity of feminism, making the global struggle feel deeply personal and relatable. I was struck by her definition of what women want: to be safe, valued, and in control of their own lives. It sounds simple, yet she illustrates how revolutionary those basic needs still are in many parts of the world. Her anecdotes about her foundation’s work were particularly moving and gave the book a strong ethical backbone. The writing is passionate and luminous, exactly what I’ve come to expect from her. It’s a slim volume, but it’s one I plan to keep on my bedside table to revisit whenever I need a spark of courage. Truly a joy to read.
Show moreAllende’s reflections on the 'soul' of feminism are as fluid and powerful as the ocean she describes in her prose. This isn't a traditional memoir with a linear plot, but rather a series of eloquent reflections on her life, from her work as a journalist in the sixties to her current foundation efforts. I loved the way she moved back and forth between different decades, showing how her fervor for equality was sparked by her father’s abandonment. To be fair, some of the stories about her previous books felt a little repetitive if you’ve followed her career closely, yet her voice remains captivating. She speaks to the young women of the world with a passion that is hard to find in modern writing. It's a quick read but one that packs a punch, leaving you thinking about gender equality long after you've closed the cover.
Show moreEver wonder what it feels like to be a self-proclaimed 'passionate old woman' in a society that values youth above all else? Isabel Allende answers that question with a rebellious spirit and a lot of humor. Her writing style here is punchy and direct, reflecting a woman who no longer cares about being popular or pleasing the male-dominated literary establishment. I was particularly moved by the sections regarding her daughter and the work her foundation does to combat violence against women globally. While the book is quite short—I finished it in a single afternoon—it provides a dense concentration of wisdom. Some parts felt a bit brief, and I wished she had expanded more on her third marriage, but the overall message of female solidarity is undeniable. It makes the daunting task of personal growth feel just a little bit easier and more accessible for everyone.
Show moreFinally got around to reading this, and I found the focus on her early career in the male-dominated world of Chilean journalism to be the highlight. It is fascinating to see how she navigated those spaces before she became the international icon we know today. Allende writes about her mother’s dependence on men with a sharp, clear-eyed sorrow that explains exactly why she became a feminist in kindergarten. The book is short, but it covers a vast amount of ground, from the loss of a child to the joys of her current home life with her dog and her husband. My only minor gripe is that it can feel a bit like a highlights reel of her life rather than a deep dive. Still, her ability to impart the wisdom of her years with such elegance is remarkable. It’s a heartwarming tribute to the women who shaped her.
Show moreThe specific focus on the 'emboldened grandmother' concept in these pages is exactly what I needed to read right now. Allende argues that older women are the fastest-growing and most fearless group because they have nothing left to lose, and that perspective is so empowering. She writes about the anti-aging industry as a character flaw of society rather than the individual, which is a message that needs to be shouted from the rooftops. Her writing is refreshing and honest, never shying away from the darker aspects of the female experience, like violence and objectification. While I found the transition between some chapters a little abrupt, the sheer passion in her voice carries the reader through. This book is a meditation on what it means to live a life of purpose. It’s a lovely, stirring call to action for women of all generations to stay loud.
Show moreTruth is, while I adore her novels, this specific volume felt a bit scattered and lacked a cohesive structure. It’s more of a passionate manifesto than a narrative, which might throw some readers off if they are expecting a sequel to her earlier autobiographical works. She spends a lot of time on the concept of 'making noise,' which is an inspiring sentiment, but the execution felt a bit repetitive by the halfway point. I appreciated the ethical approach she takes toward global issues, highlighting how far we still have to go for true justice. However, I didn't always agree with her rigid view-points on gender dynamics. It is certainly a thought-provoking read, and her prose is as beautiful as ever, but it didn't quite reach the heights of her fiction for me. It’s a decent companion piece for fans, though perhaps not the best starting point for newcomers.
Show moreNot what I expected, but I suppose that’s the point when you're dealing with a writer as unique as Allende. Look, if you are looking for a rigorous, academic deconstruction of feminist theory, this is definitely not the book for you. It’s a very personal, often subjective look at one woman's journey through a changing world. To be fair, she admits she isn't a philosopher; she’s a storyteller. While I enjoyed the glimpses into her writing process and her marriages, I felt some of the broader social commentary was a bit 'feminism 101.' It’s a pleasant read that provides a nice emotional journey, but it lacks the 'punch' that some of her more complex novels possess. It’s a fine book for a lazy Sunday, but it didn't leave as lasting an impression on me as 'The House of the Spirits' did years ago.
Show moreAs a lifelong follower of Allende’s Spanish works, I have to say I found this collection incredibly disappointing. It honestly felt like a collection of recycled anecdotes from her previous memoirs like 'Paula' or 'The Sum of Our Days,' but stripped of the magic that usually defines her writing. Instead of the deep, lyrical prose I expected, the tone was more akin to a surface-level TED Talk on feminism. She states basic facts about the struggles of women that most of us are already well aware of, without adding any new or profound philosophical depth. At times, the narrative bordered on a simplistic 'all men are evil' sentiment that lacked nuance. I agree with her editors that she can publish anything, but this felt like a missed opportunity to say something truly new. If you want deep feminist theory, you are better off sticking to the classics.
Show moreIt is Allende’s personal account of a lifelong fight with patriarchy, which she defines as a system giving men privileges that are often hard to see. Starting with her abandoned mother in Chile, she follows its effects through love, creative work, beauty, abortion and aging, and closes with her hopes for a world shaped by circles of women who support each other.
She retells a tale of a thief in Baghdad who escaped punishment by telling a caliph that women want to be heard. Allende’s own answer lists several linked needs: love, safety, peace, respect, and control over their own bodies. She argues patriarchy denies these to many women, pointing to figures on rape in the United States and murders of women in Mexico.
She calls them emboldened grandmothers: women who have lived long enough to stop needing anyone’s approval, and who therefore owe the world their voices. Her model is her friend Olga Murray, who at 94 still runs the Nepal Youth Foundation, which has rescued some 15,000 girls from being sold as kamlaris, or slaves.
She describes two levels. On the large scale, invest money in women, because mothers in developing countries tend to spend on food, health and school, helping families, communities and countries prosper. On the personal scale, bring women together. She saw this in Kibisom, a Kenyan community of widows and orphans who laughed and sang in a circle despite their losses.
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