At The Existentialist Café: Freedom, Being and Apricot Cocktails
Sarah Bakewell tells the story of Sartre, de Beauvoir, Heidegger and Camus. She shows how their philosophy of freedom, born in Paris cafés and tested by war, can help you own the choices that shape your life.

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1. Introduction
1 min 04 sec
If your job, your past or other people’s expectations seem to decide who you are, the existentialists had a blunt reply: they don’t, and believing they do is a way to dodge responsibility. In At The Existentialist Café, writer Sarah Bakewell recounts how that idea began, with three friends sharing an apricot cocktail in a Paris bar in 1932. The circle around Sartre, de Beauvoir and their companions hoped to create a philosophy about how people really live. They built one by learning to look hard at ordinary experience.
Their central claim was that we are free, and that our choices make us who we are. Bakewell shows the claim tested in a prison camp, an unconventional love affair, a broken friendship and a book about women’s lives. Follow those stories and you gain a working method: see situations without ready-made assumptions, notice the roles you hide behind, and choose on purpose at the next fork in the road.
2. See everyday things freshly by dropping assumptions
1 min 49 sec
Three bored graduates in a Paris bar heard that a drink on their table could be a serious topic for philosophy. The method behind that claim changes how you see a meeting, a pain or a piece of music.
3. Judge people, yourself included, by their actions
1 min 55 sec
Husserl’s brightest student, who would leave the greatest mark on phenomenology, asked what it means for anything to exist. Then, in one year, he made a decision that came to define him far more than any of his books.
4. Own your choices because no one else can make them
1 min 46 sec
A young man in occupied France had to pick between his mother and the fight against the Nazis. Sartre’s reply refused to tell him what to do, and that refusal is the whole philosophy.
5. Catch the everyday ways you dodge freedom
1 min 48 sec
An escaped prisoner of war wrote a masterpiece about why freedom makes us dizzy. His examples are an alarm clock and a waiter, and you probably resemble both more often than you think.
6. Build a life on your own terms
1 min 43 sec
Two philosophers rejected marriage and made a different kind of agreement in a Paris garden. It lasted half a century, and the city that grew around them turned their ideas into a way of life.
7. Decide whether life is absurd or meaningful
1 min 49 sec
A warm, funny friend looked at a man condemned to push a rock forever and saw something worth smiling about. The disagreement that followed eventually ended the friendship.
8. Recognize the gaze of others that shapes your self-image
1 min 45 sec
De Beauvoir set out to describe ordinary experiences most philosophers had never thought to examine. What she found explains why so many people learn to watch themselves as if through someone else’s eyes.
9. Conclusion
1 min 13 sec
Bakewell’s story runs from a cocktail to a book about how women are seen, and one habit connects them: refusing a description of life that arrives ready-made. Husserl refused stale assumptions about things. Sartre refused the idea that character is fate. De Beauvoir refused the myth that women’s lives are simply natural. Heidegger shows the cost of the other path: his reputation fell on the choices he made in 1933.
This philosophy is more than café talk because its authors lived it under pressure. They lived it in a prison camp, in a love affair run on a renewable lease and in a friendship that ended over principle.
The book supports a few habits you can start this week. Before judging a situation, describe it as it is, the way a patient should describe his own pain. Notice when you are hiding inside a role, like the waiter with his tray. And at the next fork in the road, ask whether you are doing what is expected of you or what will make you the person you want to become.
Sartre’s former student came to him wanting an answer. He got a single word, and it still works: choose.
About this book
What is this book about?
Philosophy often sounds remote from daily life. It seems to be old questions about whether anything is real, argued far from the places where people work, love and make decisions. In At The Existentialist Café, Sarah Bakewell tells the story of the thinkers who dragged it back into ordinary experience. It starts with Jean-Paul Sartre hearing, over an apricot cocktail in 1932, that even his drink could be a subject for philosophy. Bakewell follows the idea from Edmund Husserl's phenomenology in Freiburg to Martin Heidegger's question about being and his disastrous choice to serve the Nazis. From there it reaches Sartre's claim that we are free and make ourselves through our actions. She shows Sartre and Simone de Beauvoir living that claim through a prison camp, an occupied city, an open relationship that lasted 50 years, a crowded postwar café scene and a bitter break with Albert Camus. The story ends with The Second Sex, de Beauvoir's study of how women learn to see themselves through male eyes. Readers get a clear account of what existentialism actually says. They also get a set of habits for looking at their own lives without borrowed assumptions.
Book Information
Who it's for
Professionals feeling boxed in
Professionals who feel their job or other people's expectations are deciding their life for them.
Curious about the existentialists
Readers curious about Sartre, de Beauvoir and Camus who want the ideas told through the people.
Facing a big decision
People facing a career or relationship decision who want a philosophy that hands the choice back to them.
About the Author
Sarah Bakewell
Sarah Bakewell was born in Bournemouth, England, grew up mostly in Sydney, Australia, and studied philosophy at the University of Essex. She spent ten years as a curator of early printed books at London's Wellcome Library and has written full time since 2002. Her book on Montaigne, How to Live, won the Duff Cooper Prize and the US National Book Critics Circle Award for Biography. The New York Times named At The Existentialist Café one of the ten best books of 2016. She has also won the Windham-Campbell Literature Prize and teaches creative writing at Kellogg College, Oxford.
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Listeners find this work remarkably effective at illustrating intricate philosophical concepts while establishing a strong sense of historical background. Furthermore, the prose is lucid and captivating, and listeners value the way it illuminates the circumstances surrounding the work of intellectual icons. The book also provides accessible interpretations of dense philosophies, leading listeners to characterize it as an exhilarating exploration of the lives of these thinkers.
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This book is a breath of fresh air for anyone who has ever felt intimidated by the heavy hitters of 20th-century thought. Sarah Bakewell manages to turn what could have been a dry academic history into a vibrant, pulsing narrative that feels as much like a biography of a friendship as it does a study of philosophy. I loved the way she balanced the 'big' ideas—like Husserl’s phenomenology—with the gritty, human details of the thinkers' lives. Seeing Sartre’s frantic writing pace, fueled by medication and a refusal to edit his own output, made his massive bibliography finally make sense. It’s rare to find an author who can explain the complex 'epoche' with such clarity while also capturing the smoky, caffeinated atmosphere of a Parisian café. Personally, I found her treatment of the Heidegger controversy particularly nuanced; she doesn't shy away from his Nazism but still acknowledges his intellectual allure. It’s a joyful, illuminating read.
Show morePicked this up after loving Bakewell's work on Montaigne, and she did not disappoint. She has this incredible way of making you feel the 'sunny joy' of rediscovering a subject that clearly shaped her own youth. The heart of the book is definitely the relationship between Sartre and Beauvoir—those 'interlinked cogs' that kept the existentialist machine running for decades. I was fascinated by the contrast between their public personas and their private struggles, especially Beauvoir's internal conflict about playing second fiddle to Sartre despite her own heavyweight intellect. The book manages to be both an intellectual history and a gripping social drama. One minute you’re learning about the divergence of Czech dissidents, and the next you’re reading about manuscripts being smuggled in diplomatic bags. It’s an exhilarating dive into a world where ideas actually mattered, where people got into fistfights over the meaning of freedom. Easily one of the best non-fiction books I’ve read in years.
Show moreWow, I didn't think a book about phenomenology could actually be a page-turner. I went into this with almost no background in 20th-century philosophy, yet I never felt lost or bored. Sarah Bakewell serves up these 'poptastic' descriptions of incredibly dense topics without losing the underlying complexity. I particularly enjoyed how she contextualized the thinkers within the horrors of the 1930s and 40s. Seeing how Heidegger’s Nazism or Sartre’s later Communism influenced their work added a layer of reality that you just don't get from reading their primary texts alone. The book is vibrant, funny, and deeply moving at times—especially when discussing the fallout of long-term friendships. It’s the kind of reading experience that makes you want to go out and buy a black turtleneck and spend the rest of your life in a library. This book isn't just an education; it's an absolute pleasure.
Show moreAfter hearing so much about the rivalry between Camus and Sartre, it was fascinating to see the breakdown of their friendship described so vividly. Bakewell paints a picture of a Paris that was starving for both food and meaning, and she shows how existentialism provided a framework for a new kind of life. The way she handles the political shifts—the move from the Resistance to the Cold War—is incredibly helpful for understanding why these philosophers were so obsessed with 'engagement.' I also loved the smaller details, like the description of the minuscule shorthand Husserl used for his thousands of pages of notes. It makes these towering figures feel like real, flawed humans who were just trying to figure things out. This book is a massive achievement, managing to be both a scholarly resource and a wildly entertaining narrative. If you have even a passing interest in how we got to our modern understanding of freedom and identity, you have to read this.
Show moreNot what I expected from a philosophy book, but in the best way possible. I always thought existentialism was just for moody teenagers, but Bakewell shows it’s actually a philosophy of action and terrifying responsibility. The anecdotes are pure gold. The story about Sartre writing an 8-hour Freud script for John Huston and then making it even longer when asked to cut it had me laughing out loud. It’s that blend of humor and high-stakes thinking that makes this work. Bakewell’s writing is so clear and engaging that you don't even realize you’re learning about Dasein until you’re already halfway through a chapter. This isn't a dusty tome; it’s an invitation to a conversation. By the time I finished, I felt like I’d been sitting at that café myself, nursing a drink and arguing about the nature of being. Five stars, no question.
Show moreEver wonder why existentialists are always pictured in smoky cafes wearing black turtlenecks? Bakewell takes that stereotype and breathes incredible life into it, showing that these ideas weren't born in a vacuum but in a world on fire. The way she traces the shift from Husserl’s quiet descriptions to the radical freedom demanded by Sartre during the Resistance is masterful. I especially appreciated her critique of Simone de Beauvoir’s The Second Sex and the way she highlights how much was lost in the early English translations. It’s not just a book about books; it’s a book about how to live authentically in a century defined by crushing ideologies like Nazism and Stalinism. My only gripe is that Heidegger remains such a frustrating, grumpy figure, though Bakewell’s refusal to give him an easy pass for his silence is refreshing. A truly exhilarating dive into the minds that shaped our modern sense of self.
Show moreBakewell has a remarkable talent for humanizing people who are usually just names on a dusty syllabus. In her hands, Sartre is not just a statue of an intellectual; he is a man obsessed with his work, popping pills, and dragging his friends into endless, caffeine-fueled debates. The book serves as a perfect biography of a movement, tracing how ideas flowed from the rigorous German phenomenologists into the politically charged atmosphere of post-war Paris. I was particularly struck by the sections on Karl Jaspers and Hannah Arendt, who often get overshadowed by the Sartre/Beauvoir power couple. While the philosophy can still get a bit dense when she dives into Heidegger’s more obscure terminology, Bakewell usually throws you a lifeline just before you drown. My only real complaint is that I wish there was even more on Simone Weil, who remains one of the most enigmatic figures in the periphery. Overall, it’s a beautifully written, deeply researched look at the 20th century’s most influential thinkers.
Show moreThe chapter detailing how Husserl’s manuscripts were smuggled out of Nazi Germany felt like a high-stakes thriller, which is not something I ever expected to say about a philosophy text. Bakewell’s ability to weave together the political urgency of the 1930s with the abstract concerns of phenomenology is her greatest strength. She takes these 'jawbreaker' concepts and breaks them down into digestible, even delightful, insights. For instance, explaining 'intentionality' through the lens of a simple cup of coffee or a glance across a room makes the theory stick in a way a textbook never could. Look, it’s a long book, and the sheer number of minor philosophers can get a bit overwhelming toward the end. But the central narrative of Sartre and Beauvoir keeps the momentum going. It's a brilliant piece of intellectual biography that provides a measure of context that is often missing from more formal studies.
Show moreTo be fair, I enjoyed the historical sweep of this book, but it felt a bit uneven in its pacing. Some chapters, like the ones on the early days of phenomenology in Germany, were absolutely riveting and offered a contextual understanding I never got in college. But then the middle section seemed to drag as we looped back through Sartre and Beauvoir’s relationship for the third or fourth time. I appreciate how Bakewell simplifies complex theories without being condescending, yet I occasionally felt like the 'character' of the book overshadowed the actual 'ideas.' The story about the shorthand manuscripts being smuggled to Belgium was a highlight, though. It’s a solid introduction for a casual reader, but I found myself wanting more of Camus and less of the endless Sartrean drama. It's a good piece of writing, just a bit too focused on the gossip for my tastes.
Show moreFrankly, I found the focus on the thinkers' personal scandals a bit distracting from the actual philosophical meat I was craving. While Bakewell’s prose is undeniably lively and she has a great eye for a witty anecdote, I felt the book veered too often into 'intellectual gossip' territory. I wanted a deeper dive into the mechanics of Being and Nothingness, but instead, I got stories about Sartre’s failed movie scripts and Beauvoir’s romantic triangles. To be fair, her explanation of the 'thing-in-itself' was decent, but it felt a bit like 'Philosophy Lite' for the beach-read crowd. If you want a rigorous academic breakdown of phenomenology, look elsewhere. However, if you want to know who was sleeping with whom while they discussed the nature of freedom, you’ll probably love it. It just wasn't exactly what I was looking for in a history of existentialism.
Show moreQuestions about this book
What is At The Existentialist Café about?
Sarah Bakewell tells the story of existentialism through the people who made it. It runs from Sartre hearing about phenomenology over an apricot cocktail in 1932 to Husserl and Heidegger in Freiburg. From there it reaches Sartre and de Beauvoir in wartime and postwar Paris, their quarrel with Camus and de Beauvoir’s The Second Sex. The thread is a philosophy grounded in lived experience, with freedom and responsibility at its center.
What does existence precedes essence mean?
It is Sartre’s way of saying that nothing fixes who you are in advance. Biology, culture and personal history shape your situation, but you define yourself through the choices you make once you exist. When a former student asked whether to join the fight against the Nazis or stay with his mother, Sartre told him to choose and so invent himself.
What is bad faith according to Sartre?
Bad faith is pretending you are not free, usually by acting as if you were nothing more than a role. Sartre’s example is a Paris waiter who moves with an exaggerated grace he never uses at home. Playing a role is fine, Sartre says, but never so convincingly that you forget you are a free person who could act otherwise.
Why did Camus and Sartre fall out?
They disagreed on two things. Camus saw life as absurd, picturing Sisyphus smiling as he pushed his boulder, while Sartre and de Beauvoir held that our actions carry meaning that differs for each person. After the liberation, Camus opposed state executions of collaborators, while his friends saw them as a necessary evil. The friendship broke in the early 1950s.
How can I apply existentialism in daily life?
The book suggests a few habits. Describe situations as they actually are before reaching for assumptions, the way a patient should describe his own pain exactly. Notice when you hide inside a role or routine, like Sartre’s waiter or the alarm clock. At important decisions, ask whether you are doing what others expect or what will make you the person you want to become.
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