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Search Inside Yourself: The Unexpected Path to Achieving Success, Happiness (and World Peace)

Shows how to train emotional intelligence the way you train a muscle. Mindfulness steadies attention, attention builds self-knowledge, and self-knowledge supports habits of optimism, empathy and warmth that improve both work and relationships.

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Your technical skills may be sharp, and still your moods, the pressure and other people end up deciding how far you get. This book offers another way to make progress. In Search Inside Yourself, Chade-Meng Tan, one of Google’s earliest engineers, argues that emotional intelligence is one of the strongest drivers of professional success. It can be learned, he says, and no classroom is needed.

His method has three steps. First you learn to put your attention where you choose, using mindfulness meditation. Then you aim that steadier attention inward to see how your thoughts and feelings work. Finally, on that self-knowledge, you build habits that make you calmer, happier and better with people.

The evidence runs from insurance agents who sold more because they were optimistic to a psychologist whose anger faded when the Dalai Lama held his hand. Along the way you get a ten-minute breathing practice, a way to cool a flash of anger and two exercises for repairing a relationship that has gone sour.

A child who struggles with math can still be brilliant, and an adult with a high IQ can still be miserable. Meng starts with a broader idea of intelligence and a fictional miser who proves it can grow.

Optimism sounds like a personality quirk, and kindness sounds like a luxury during cost cuts. An insurance study and an airline boss suggest both show up in numbers that managers care about.

Focus rarely breaks with a crash; it slides away while you are not looking. A bicycle and a pot of muddy water explain what meditation actually trains, and why it leaves people calmer as well as sharper.

An angry reply to a boss, a racing heart before a speech, a voice that says you are not good enough. Financial advisors and a nervous engineer in Berlin show what changes when you can watch these moments happening.

Executives reach for money and perks when they want people to perform. A billion-dollar shoe retailer and a Zen teacher who claims he has never worked a day point to something that lasts longer.

Resentment toward a new manager can sour every meeting for months. Meng tried something simple on his own grudge, and a separate listening exercise left his partner in tears for an unexpected reason.

Ambitious people are often told that getting ahead means looking out for yourself first. Research on top managers and a single gesture from the Dalai Lama suggest the opposite produces more influence.

The title sounds like a Google slogan, yet the argument underneath is serious. Meng claims that the qualities we file under personality, such as calm, optimism, confidence and kindness, can be trained like muscles. Attention comes first, because you cannot manage what you never notice. Self-knowledge grows out of attention, and from self-knowledge come the habits that make people better speakers, steadier partners and leaders others want to follow. The American Express advisors and the manager who moved to a four-day week both improved through training, while Seligman’s optimistic insurance agents show how much such a trait can matter.

The starting point is small. Sit for ten minutes with your breath, and each time you drift, come back, like a cyclist making a tiny correction. When anger rises at work, try to see the river before it carries you. Before a hard conversation, remind yourself that the other person wants to be happy, just as you do. At night, try a body scan: two minutes of breathing with eyes closed, then attention moving slowly from head to shoulders, noticing where a pleasant memory sits in the body.

The search Meng recommends needs no index. It begins with one breath you actually notice.

About this book

What is this book about?

Many capable people find that technical skill takes them only so far. Moods, pressure and other people decide the rest. Chade-Meng Tan, one of Google's earliest engineers, argues that emotional intelligence is among the strongest drivers of professional success, and that anyone can learn it outside a classroom. His method has three steps. Mindfulness meditation trains you to place your attention where you choose. That sharper attention, turned inward, shows you how your thoughts and emotions work. On that self-knowledge you build mental habits that make you calmer, happier and better with people. Meng supports the method with optimism research on insurance agents, self-awareness training for financial advisors at American Express, the happiness culture at Zappos, and the moment the Dalai Lama took an angry psychologist's hand. Readers come away with practices they can start today: a ten-minute breathing meditation, a way to take stock of yourself before a stressful moment, two empathy exercises for a strained relationship, and a body scan for relaxing at night.

Book Information

Rating:

Genre:

Mindfulness & Meditation, Personal Development

Topics:

Emotional Intelligence, Empathy, Self-Awareness

Publisher:

HarperCollins

Language:

English

Narrator:

Cole

First published:

January 1, 2012

Pages:

288

Length:

16 min 18 sec

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Who it's for

  • Held back by moods

    Professionals with strong technical skills whose moods, stress or temper hold them back.

  • Managers wanting loyal teams

    New and experienced managers who want their teams loyal and motivated, even through hard times.

  • Curious about meditation

    Anyone curious about meditation who wants a practical, workplace-friendly way to begin.

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About the Author

Chade-Meng Tan

Chade-Meng Tan, known as Meng, was one of Google's earliest engineers. He helped build its first mobile search service and led a team responsible for search quality. His job title was Jolly Good Fellow. At Google he led the creation of the mindfulness course Search Inside Yourself, and he later co-founded the Search Inside Yourself Leadership Institute with Marc Lesser. He is an international bestselling author, co-chairs One Billion Acts of Peace, and is a founding patron of Stanford's Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education.

Ratings & Reviews

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4.3

Overall score based on 380 ratings.

What people think

Listeners find this mindfulness guide to be a fast and pleasant experience, valuing its evidence-based advantages and helpful hands-on advice. The material is easy to grasp, as one listener points out that it takes the mumbo jumbo out of meditation. Listeners prize the insights provided, with one specifically mentioning the excellent neuroscience summary, and appreciate how the text moves logically toward social and emotional intelligence. Listeners also enjoy the author's wit, with one noting that the cartoons provide a humorous break between sections.

Top reviews

Araya

Finally, a meditation book that doesn't feel like I'm being sold magic crystals or ancient secrets. Chade-Meng Tan manages to bridge the gap between spiritual mindfulness and modern neuroscience in a way that actually makes sense for someone working a 9-to-5. I appreciated how he explains "high-resolution emotion" as a way to map exactly what is happening in the body. The jokes can be a bit cheesy, and his self-appointed "Jolly Good Fellow" title is definitely a choice, but the core content is solid. It is refreshing to see an author strip away the esoteric fluff and replace it with brain scans and tangible data. While the constant Google name-dropping gets a little old after the third chapter, the actual exercises are incredibly practical. If you have been skeptical about the benefits of sitting still, this is probably the best entry point you will find. It turns the nebulous concept of "finding yourself" into a mental skill you can actually train.

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Felix

Picked this up on a whim during a particularly stressful month, and I am so glad I did. The idea that happiness is a default state of mind that we simply need to allow was a profound shift for me. I have read Thich Nhat Hanh before, and you can definitely feel his influence on Meng’s philosophy, especially regarding the power of compassionate listening. The exercises on "just like me" empathy have already helped me navigate some tense family gatherings without losing my temper. To be fair, the humor is an acquired taste and some might find the heavy "Googliness" of the anecdotes a bit much. But the core message about world peace starting with inner peace is genuinely inspiring. It is rare to find a book that handles heavy emotional topics with such a light, accessible touch. I have already started recommending the "loving-kindness" meditation to my coworkers.

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Dao

Wow. I was not expecting an engineer to be the one to finally explain meditation to me in a way that stuck. This book is the perfect antidote to the overly mystical guides that usually populate the self-help section of the bookstore. It is fast-paced, funny, and deeply practical from the very first page. I loved the "mindful breathing" exercises because they only take a minute and can be done anywhere, even in a crowded elevator. Truth is, I used to think mindfulness was just for monks, but Meng proves it is a vital tool for anyone living in the modern world. The cartoons are a great addition and help break up the text, making it feel less like a dry textbook and more like a conversation. While some might find his name-dropping annoying, I actually thought his stories about world leaders were pretty entertaining. This is a must-read for anyone who thinks they are too busy to meditate.

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Selin

After hearing about this book for years, I finally got around to reading it, and it exceeded the hype for me. As a fellow "compulsively pragmatic" person, I appreciated the focus on measurable results and scientific evidence. Meng breaks down complex emotional states into "high-resolution" data points that we can actually influence through practice and awareness. The "three easy steps to world peace" might sound ambitious, but the logic behind starting with individual compassion is actually quite sound. Not gonna lie, I was worried it would be too New-Agey, but the author’s background as an engineer keeps the content grounded and logical. Even the more "Californian" moments are balanced out by self-aware humor and very practical exercises. It is a refreshing take on a subject that is often shrouded in unnecessary mystery. Whether you are a CEO or an entry-level employee, there is something here that will make your life significantly better.

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Om

Struggling with anxiety for years led me to the concept of 'meta-attention' in this book, and it was a total game-changer. The author uses a simple bicycle analogy to explain concentration—it is all about those tiny, constant micro-recoveries that keep you balanced as you ride. I found the sections on emotional intelligence and self-regulation surprisingly applicable to my daily interactions at the office. The book is an easy read, and the cartoons provide a nice mental break when the discussion of amygdala hijacks gets a bit dense. My only real gripe is the tone, which oscillates between deeply insightful and weirdly self-congratulatory. He mentions his famous friends like the Dalai Lama and Bill Clinton quite often, which feels like a perpetual humblebrag. However, if you can look past the corporate elitism, there is a wealth of actionable advice here for building resilience in a high-stress environment.

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Rosa

How often do you find a book that treats emotional intelligence like a software upgrade? Chade-Meng Tan’s background as an engineer shines through in the structured way he presents these mindfulness concepts. He takes the "mumbo jumbo" out of meditation by grounding everything in neurological research and measurable outcomes. I particularly enjoyed the summary of Daniel Goleman’s emotional competencies; it gave me a clear framework for my own self-regulation. The writing is punchy and moves fast, making it a perfect weekend read for busy professionals who want results without the fluff. My minor complaint is that some of the "scientific" claims feel a bit hyperbolic, especially when he discusses the effects of a monk's hand-holding on a skeptic's brain. Still, the practical tips for mindful listening and conflict resolution are worth the price of admission alone. It is an excellent bridge between the spiritual and the secular worlds.

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Omar

Ever wonder what the 'secret sauce' behind Google's corporate culture is? This book pulls back the curtain on their famous internal course, and it is easy to see why it is so popular with the employees. Tan makes a compelling case for how contemplative practices can actually boost a business's bottom line by creating more empathetic, focused leaders. I have started using the "empathic listening" techniques during my one-on-ones, and the difference in communication has been night and day. Frankly, the author’s obsession with his own coolness can be a bit cringeworthy at times. He seems to equate high-power jobs with high moral ground, which is a bit of a logical leap. However, the actual curriculum is solid and provides a great roadmap for anyone looking to improve their social intelligence. It is a smart, slightly quirky guide to becoming a better human being in the workplace.

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Rania

The information inside this book is undeniably valuable, but the delivery left a lot to be desired. On one hand, the meditation techniques are simple and easy to integrate into a busy schedule without feeling like a chore. On the other hand, the author's personality feels like it is taking up all the air in the room. He refers to himself in the third person far too often for my liking. "If Meng can sit, so can you" is cute once, but it becomes repetitive and grating by the end of the second chapter. I also felt like the book could have been about fifty pages shorter if we removed the constant mentions of free lunches and Google perks. To be fair, the section on "meta-distress"—feeling bad about feeling bad—was eye-opening and helped me stop my negative thought loops. It is a decent guide if you can filter out the corporate chatter, but it is certainly not a masterpiece.

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Weera

Look, I really wanted to like this, but the level of corporate worship is frankly nauseating. Meng spends half the book telling us how lucky he is to work at Google and the other half reminding us that he is friends with every celebrity on the planet. The self-deprecation feels totally hollow when it is immediately followed by a story about meeting Barack Obama or the Dalai Lama. I was hoping for a serious exploration of meditation, but instead, I got what felt like a hagiography of Google’s HR department. The writing style is incredibly corny, filled with dad jokes that just do not land for me. While there are a few decent breathing exercises buried in there, you could probably find the same information on a one-page blog post. It feels more like "Mindfulness for Millionaires" rather than a guide for the average person. If you are not a Silicon Valley executive, you might find the elitism unbearable.

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Finn

Honestly, the 'bullshit detector' mentioned in other reviews was ringing loud and clear for me throughout this entire read. There is an undercurrent of elitism that makes it hard to take the spiritual advice seriously. Tan claims to be humble, yet he manages to mention his friendship with celebrities and world leaders in the same breath as his "simple" aspirations for world peace. It feels like a vanity project disguised as a meditation manual. The jokes are incredibly corny and often feel forced, like a corporate executive trying too hard to be "one of the guys." In my experience, real mindfulness training doesn't involve this much ego or corporate branding. While the summary of neuroscience is okay, it does not justify the slog through the author's endless self-promotion. If you want to learn meditation, there are much more grounded books out there that do not involve a 200-page advertisement for Google's HR policies.

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Questions about this book

Chade-Meng Tan argues that emotional intelligence drives professional success and happiness, and that it can be learned. His method has three steps: train attention through mindfulness meditation, use that attention to understand your own thoughts and emotions, then build mental habits such as optimism, empathy and compassion. He backs it with examples from American Express advisors, insurance agents studied by Martin Seligman, Zappos and stories from his own life.

Sit in a position that feels both relaxed and alert. Take three slow, deep breaths, then breathe naturally and rest your attention on the breath, for example on your belly rising and falling or the feeling in your nostrils. When your mind wanders, gently bring it back. Meng suggests about ten minutes, or whatever length feels right, and compares each return to the small balance corrections of a cyclist.

Meng uses Daniel Goleman’s five categories. Self-awareness is knowing your inner state, preferences and intuition. Self-regulation is controlling impulses and moods. Motivation is steering yourself toward your goals. Empathy is awareness of other people’s feelings and needs. Social skill is the ability to influence others. Meng’s practices are designed to strengthen each one, starting with attention and self-awareness.

Meng resented his new manager, Eric, so he asked for a meeting to address it. They ended up talking about their life stories and hopes, and getting to know each other dissolved the resentment. He also suggests two exercises: Just Like Me, where you remember that the other person wants happiness and love as you do, and Loving Kindness, a meditation of good wishes toward them.

It suits professionals who feel that stress, temper or self-doubt are limiting their careers, and managers who want to lead with more warmth and trust. It also works for people who are new to meditation and want a practical, work-oriented reason to start. The exercises are short, from a ten-minute breathing practice to a body scan that can help you relax before sleep.

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