Getting There: A Book of Mentors
Six people who reached the top of their fields, from a Harvard Business School dean to the founder of Spanx, show how a hard start, a weakness or a failed plan can become the trait that carries a career.

Table of Content
1. Introduction
57 sec
Most people picture success as a straight road planned in advance, and they feel behind when their own road bends. In Getting There, photographer and former lawyer Gillian Zoe Segal collects the stories of people who reached the top of their fields, and in their lives the bend was often the route. One woman failed a law school admission test twice, and that failure helped set her on the way to a billion-dollar business. A teenager who could not make friends went on to build Craigslist.
Segal believes you don’t need a personal mentor to learn from lives like these, because their stories can do the mentoring. Six of them share one thread: whatever your start gives you, whether admiration, hardship, a weakness, rejection or failure, can become the trait that carries you forward. These stories give you a sharper way to look at your own setbacks, starting with one question: what are they training me to do?
2. Honor your role model without copying their route
1 min 49 sec
An engineer’s son set out to make his father proud by becoming an engineer too, and the plan kept failing. What his report cards were telling him ended up leading him to one of the top posts in business education.
3. Turn a hard start into your raw material
1 min 50 sec
A girl kept from playing with other children spent her early years alone in Belgrade. Years later, a few planes crossing the sky showed her what all that solitude had prepared her to make.
4. Build something from the skill you lack
1 min 49 sec
A self-described computer nerd dreaded parties and could not understand why he had so few friends. Once he found the reason, he turned that weakness into the starting point for a website drawing a million page views a month by 1997.
5. Keep going after experts call your plan naive
1 min 51 sec
Her professors said the budget was impossible, and the business leaders she wrote to agreed. A college student found another way to prove the idea, and the money that had refused to come started arriving.
6. Let past failures train you for a better plan
1 min 43 sec
She failed the test that stood between her and her childhood dream, then spent her days being thrown out of offices. That miserable job gave her exactly what she needed when her real chance finally came.
7. Carry your first values into every venture
1 min 42 sec
A future luxury-brand owner once lived out of his car and showered at public tennis courts. One rule he learned in childhood poverty guided him through every odd job and every company that followed.
8. Conclusion
1 min 13 sec
None of the six lives in Getting There ran in a straight line. An engineer’s son became a business school dean by following his strong grades in literature. A lonely girl in Belgrade turned solitude and strict control into a career in art. A man who found it hard to talk to people built a place where people connect to help one another. Segal’s mentors received very different starting materials, unevenly and early in life. What sets them apart is that they noticed what theirs were and put them to use.
That is what a mentor means here: a story showing how someone else used what they were given, so you can do the same with yours. Pick one setback or weakness you usually hide and work out what it has trained you to do, the way fax sales trained Blakely to shrug off rejection. Then listen to how you sound when you speak up. Segal advises that when people tune out in a meeting, the cause is often a nervous, sarcastic or gloomy tone, and that optimism and enthusiasm can help you steer the conversation.
The road you are on may not be the one you planned. Segal’s mentors suggest it may be the one that gets you there.
About this book
What is this book about?
Not everyone has a mentor who sits down with them and explains how to build a career. Gillian Zoe Segal's answer is that the stories of other people's lives can do much of that work. In Getting There, she gathers accounts of people who took chances and kept going until their plans worked. The mentors here took very different routes. Nitin Nohria left engineering and later became dean of Harvard Business School. Marina Abramović grew up lonely and tightly controlled in Belgrade and became a performance artist known around the world. Craig Newmark built Craigslist after struggling to communicate with people. Wendy Kopp started Teach For America after professors called her plan unrealistic. Sara Blakely founded Spanx after failing law school admission tests twice, and John Paul DeJoria went from odd jobs to a hair-care company and a tequila brand. The pattern across these stories is useful. A good start, a bad start, a weakness or a closed door can each teach the values and skills someone needs later. The book helps readers see their own detours and setbacks as preparation, and it adds one plain piece of advice about how to make yourself heard in meetings.
Book Information
Who it's for
Young professionals feeling behind
Young professionals who feel behind because their career has not followed the plan.
Changing careers after setbacks
Career switchers wondering whether a failed first path was wasted time.
Future founders facing doubters
Would-be founders who keep hearing that their idea is unrealistic and want real examples of people who kept going.
About the Author
Gillian Zoe Segal
Gillian Zoe Segal was born in Montreal and has lived in Manhattan since she was eight. She earned a Bachelor of Arts at the University of Michigan and a law degree from the Benjamin N. Cardozo School of Law. She began her career in law and later moved into photography. Getting There came from her wish to feature people who took chances and worked toward their dreams. Her work has appeared in Forbes and the New York Times.
Ratings & Reviews
Ratings at a glance
What people think
Listeners find this work both captivating and accessible, packed with valuable life guidance from high-achievers across numerous fields. Furthermore, they value the motivating material, with one listener mentioning that it acts as an excellent prompt for entrepreneurs. The title also receives praise for its diverse range of topics, as one review points out its thorough exploration of multiple career paths.
Top reviews
Ever wonder what separates the top 1% from the rest of us? This book provides a fascinating glimpse into the minds of titans like Warren Buffett and Michael Bloomberg without the typical corporate fluff. Rather than just listing achievements, the author coaxes candid recollections out of her subjects that feel like private mentorship sessions. I was particularly struck by the sheer variety of career paths represented, from high-stakes finance to the avant-garde art world. It serves as a powerful reminder that there is no singular 'right' way to build a legacy. Each chapter is concise enough to read in a single sitting, making it an excellent companion for busy professionals. The photography is also top-notch and adds a layer of intimacy to the interviews. If you are looking for genuine career inspiration that bypasses the usual clichés, this is the one to grab.
Show moreWow, it's actually refreshing to see successful people talk about their absolute lowest points for once. Segal has done a brilliant job humanizing these celebrities, showing that even the most 'perfect' careers are often built on a foundation of tragedies and fears. I loved the section on Kathy Ireland; it completely changed my perception of her as just a model and highlighted her incredible business acumen. The book avoids the cookie-cutter 'think positive' narrative that dominates the self-help genre today. Instead, it focuses on the messy, painful, and often boring reality of working toward a goal for decades. Not gonna lie, I teared up a bit reading about some of the personal losses these people faced while trying to keep their professional lives afloat. It is a beautiful, heavy, and ultimately hopeful collection of stories that I will likely revisit whenever I feel stuck.
Show moreThe truth is, many business books feel like they were written by a machine, but Segal manages to capture something much more intimate and soulful here. By focusing on the 'getting there' rather than the 'being there,' she provides a roadmap that feels attainable even if you aren't a billionaire. These people share their triumphs, sure, but the focus on their failures is what actually makes the book useful for someone starting out. I appreciated the inclusion of Rachel Zoe and Anderson Cooper, as their stories added a different flavor to the typical business narrative. This is the kind of book you want to keep on your desk to flip through when you need a 5-minute boost of motivation. It’s packed with life lessons that feel earned rather than preached. Highly recommended for anyone looking for a mentor but not knowing where to start.
Show moreEach profile in this book serves as a miniature masterclass in getting back up after life knocks you down. I was fascinated by the sheer range of careers covered, as it highlights that the mechanics of success are remarkably similar regardless of the field. From the arts to business to nonprofits, the core requirements of focus and grit remain the same. The author avoids the trap of making these people seem like superheroes; instead, they come across as regular people who simply refused to quit. Personally, I found the candidness about their tragedies and fears to be the most compelling part of the book. It’s not just a collection of 'how-to' tips, but a deep look at the emotional resilience required to achieve something great. This is a must-read for any entrepreneur looking for a reminder that the path to the top is rarely a straight line.
Show morePicked this up during a rough patch in my own startup journey and it was exactly the kick in the pants I needed. The recurring theme throughout these profiles is resilience, specifically the ability to endure rejection after rejection without losing your drive. While some might find the 'never give up' mantra a bit repetitive, seeing it applied across so many different industries makes it feel more like a universal law than a tired trope. I appreciated that the stories weren't sugar-coated to make the subjects look like untouchable geniuses from day one. To be fair, I already knew the basics of Sara Blakely's rise, but hearing about her father's influence on her view of failure was a highlight. It is an easy-to-read collection that focuses on the grit required to actually cross the finish line. My only minor gripe is that a few entries feel a bit too brief.
Show moreAs someone who struggles with a fear of rejection, I found the consistent focus on 'failing forward' quite comforting. The author curated an impressive range of subjects, ensuring that there is something for everyone regardless of whether you are in a creative or corporate field. I especially enjoyed the candid nature of the interviews; they felt less like PR-vetted statements and more like genuine conversations. One minor issue is that a few of the subjects have personal reputations that are a bit polarizing, which made it harder to stay invested in their specific advice. Regardless, the overarching message of persistence is delivered effectively through their diverse experiences. It’s a great book for entrepreneurs who need a reminder that even the biggest names in the world started out being told 'no' a thousand times. The layout is clean and the prose is straightforward, making it a very quick read.
Show moreFinally got around to this after seeing it recommended on a podcast about investing. What makes this compilation stand out is how it deconstructs success into a series of pivot points and learning moments. I found the chapter on Jillian Michaels particularly raw, as she didn't shy away from the darker parts of her journey or the unhealthy patterns she had to break. It isn't just about making money; it's about the psychological toughness required to stay the course when everything is going wrong. The variety of professions included—from television stars to nonprofit leaders—ensures that the advice doesn't become too niche or industry-specific. While I didn't connect with every single person featured, the hits far outnumbered the misses. It’s a solid addition to any career-focused library and provides plenty of food for thought regarding your own professional trajectory.
Show moreGotta say, I was surprised by how much I enjoyed the stories from people outside my own industry, like the artists and designers. Usually, I stick to tech or finance biographies, but the inclusion of Jeff Koons and others offered a fresh perspective on what it means to be successful. The writing style is very accessible and the tone is encouraging without being overly saccharine or annoying. Each person offers specific advice at the end of their story, which helps ground the broader anecdotes into actionable tips. Although I've heard some of these stories before, the way they are compiled here makes for a cohesive and compelling narrative about human potential. It’s an excellent gift for a recent college grad or anyone feeling a bit lost in their career. The book is easy to read and beautifully presented throughout.
Show moreTo be fair, some of the life lessons here lean toward the cliché side of things, reminding me of the vague advice you might find inside a chocolate wrapper. Look, the truth is that a few of these featured individuals had significant head starts in life, which makes their 'struggle' feel a bit less relatable to the average reader. However, once I pushed past that initial cynicism, I did find value in the more obscure profiles. I knew next to nothing about Marina Abramovic or Jeff Koons before this, and their sections were arguably the most interesting parts of the entire book. It’s a decent enough read if you take it for what it is: a collection of short, punchy anecdotes about persistence. Just don't expect a deep-dive manual on how to build a business from scratch. It works better as a nightstand book than a serious study.
Show moreNot what I expected given the high praise, mostly because some of the featured figures are quite difficult to root for. Frankly, it felt a bit like a who's who of people with generational wealth or controversial backgrounds, which made the 'bootstrap' advice ring a bit hollow for me. After a while, a sort of Stockholm syndrome sets in where you just accept the vague fortune cookie wisdom because the book is so pretty to look at. If you are looking for deep insights into the inner world of scientists or innovators, I’d suggest looking elsewhere. Most of these stories have been told better in long-form interviews or documentaries available for free online. It's a nicely designed coffee table book, but the actual substance left me wanting something much more substantial and less celebrity-focused. There are better books on resilience that don't rely so heavily on the glow of fame.
Show moreQuestions about this book
What is Getting There by Gillian Zoe Segal about?
It is a collection of stories about successful people that works like a book of mentors for readers who lack one. Segal shows that people such as Nitin Nohria, Marina Abramović, Craig Newmark, Wendy Kopp, Sara Blakely and John Paul DeJoria reached success by unplanned routes. Each one turned their start, whether inspiration, hardship, weakness, rejection or failure, into values and skills they used later.
How did failure help Sara Blakely start Spanx?
Blakely failed the law school admission test twice and ended up selling fax machines door to door. Customers tore up her card and even called the police, so she grew used to hearing no. When she later had the idea for invisible shapewear, many manufacturers refused to make a prototype. Her tolerance for rejection kept her going until one factory owner agreed to help.
How did Craig Newmark create Craigslist?
Newmark knew his communication skills were weak, and in 1995 he saw the internet as another chance to connect with people. He started by emailing friends about upcoming art and technology events. Members asked to add jobs, services and items for sale. Within six months he had 240 listings, so he set up a list server called Craig’s List, which became a company two years after 1997.
What practical advice does Getting There give?
Its main advice is about speaking up. If people stop listening to you in meetings, Segal suggests checking whether your voice sounds nervous, sarcastic or pessimistic. Speaking with optimism and enthusiasm can help you shape the discussion. The stories also suggest looking for what your setbacks teach you, as Blakely did, and proving demand when approval stalls, as Wendy Kopp did with Teach For America.
Who should read Getting There?
It suits people whose career has bent away from their original plan, those switching fields, and anyone starting a venture that others call unrealistic. The book does not offer a single method. It offers short life stories that show how a failed exam, a lonely childhood or a weakness in communication ended up shaping successful careers in business, education and art.
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