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Dear Madam President: An Open Letter to the Women Who Will Run the World

An insider from Hillary Clinton's 2016 campaign shows how ambitious women face different rules on ambition, looks and emotion. She shares what the Oval Office taught her about speaking up and leading anyway.

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Ambitious women are often judged by rules nobody says out loud, and one clear piece of evidence is how the press reacted to Hillary Clinton’s worst night. In Dear Madam President, Jennifer Palmieri, who directed communications for Clinton’s 2016 campaign, recalls that many commentators called the concession speech the best of the whole race. Clinton had not changed. She was simply giving way to a man, a role her critics found comfortable.

Palmieri writes as an insider who also spent years in the Obama and Bill Clinton White Houses, and she addresses her letter to the women who will one day lead. Her argument is that women are held to separate standards on ambition, looks and emotion. The way past those standards, she says, is to speak up, trust feeling as well as reason, and keep going after a loss. She also explains the anger that elected Donald Trump, and she offers habits any woman in a room full of powerful people can start practicing at her next meeting.

Clinton’s concession earned her the warmest reviews of her entire campaign, yet she said nothing new. Palmieri explains what really won the critics over, and what it reveals about how ambition in a woman gets read.

Every American president leaves office looking older, and the country treats it as a running joke. Palmieri suspects the first woman in the job will get no such pass, and she has her own answer to the pressure.

On election night, Palmieri and a female colleague from the campaign watched their hopes collapse and kept their emotions in check. Palmieri later understood why they held back, and why she now thinks tears in public can be a show of strength.

In Bill Clinton’s Oval Office, no one ever finished a sentence. In Obama’s, the quietest people were asked to speak last. Both rooms taught Palmieri the same habit, and it changed how she saw her own advice.

Palmieri gave Hillary Clinton advice that sounded sensible and was followed to the letter. She now thinks it was wrong, and that the candidate’s own instinct may have mattered more than anyone on the team realized.

One June night in Brooklyn, Palmieri walked through crowds celebrating a week of progressive victories. Even then, a small worry stayed with her. Eighteen months later she learned what the people who were not celebrating felt.

Palmieri wrote her letter after a defeat, yet it reads as instructions for the next attempt. The rules women face on ambition, looks and feeling are real, and she does not pretend they will disappear soon. Her answer is to stop bending to them. Take up space in the room. Let your face show its years. Let tears show what you care about. Trust the instinct that told Clinton to keep talking.

Her last piece of advice is about losing. Clinton lost the election, Palmieri says, but she was not defeated, because defeat only comes when you give up hope. What Clinton did afterward was simple: she got up each morning and went back out, and the next day she did it again. Palmieri believes the first woman president will need exactly that stubbornness.

So when a setback lands, keep the loss separate from the defeat. Make your point in the next meeting, even if you have to cut in to do it. And when praise arrives, ask whether it is rewarding your work or your retreat. The concession speech the critics loved showed a woman stepping aside. The president Palmieri is writing to will be the one who keeps showing up.

About this book

What is this book about?

On election night 2016, Jennifer Palmieri watched the campaign she ran communications for lose to Donald Trump. In this open letter to the women who will one day lead, she asks what went wrong. Part of her answer is uncomfortable: Hillary Clinton was judged by standards no male candidate faces. Palmieri traces those standards through three areas. Ambition gets read as selfishness. A woman's looks are examined far more closely than a man's. Her emotions are watched for signs of weakness. Against them she sets lessons from her years in the Bill Clinton and Obama White Houses: get your view into the room even if you have to interrupt, let tears show what you care about, and trust your instinct when a crisis calls for heart as well as head. She also admits her own mistake on the email controversy, and she explains the anger of the voters who chose Trump. Readers get a candid insider's account of a historic loss, practical habits for speaking and leading in powerful rooms, and a way of thinking about setbacks that separates losing from being defeated.

Book Information

Rating:

Genre:

Politics & Current Affairs, Social Issues

Topics:

Current Affairs, Gender, Leadership

Publisher:

Hachette

Language:

English

Narrator:

Ben

First published:

March 27, 2018

Pages:

192

Length:

13 min 38 sec

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Who it's for

  • Quiet in senior meetings

    Women early or mid-career who stay silent in senior meetings and want to be heard.

  • Professionals feeling judged differently

    Professionals who feel judged on their looks or emotions in ways male colleagues are not.

  • Curious why Clinton lost

    Readers who want an insider's view of why Clinton lost in 2016.

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About the Author

Jennifer Palmieri

Jennifer Palmieri is an American political advisor and media personality. From 2013 to 2015 she led communications at the White House, and she went on to direct communications for Hillary Clinton's 2016 presidential campaign. She also served in Bill Clinton's administration. From 2021 to 2023 she co-hosted The Circus, a Showtime documentary series about politics.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

3.7

Overall score based on 24 ratings.

What people think

Listeners describe this work as thought-provoking and engaging, and one listener points out its unique viewpoint on campaign strategies. Furthermore, the narrative feels deeply grounded in emotion and optimism, with listeners enjoying the approachable, dialogue-like prose. Many also view it as essential reading for all audiences, especially as a graduation present, and one listener mentions it resonates with women across every generation. The work earns praise for its genuineness, as one listener draws attention to the author's authentic observations and another emphasizes the valuable perspectives on gender.

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Film

After hearing so much buzz about this title, I finally gave it a shot, and I was genuinely moved by Palmieri's vulnerability. This isn’t just a dry political memoir; it’s an emotionally anchored call to action that speaks to the exhaustion and hope many women feel today. Her conversational writing style makes it feel like you’re having a glass of wine with a mentor who has seen it all. I particularly loved the chapter on redefining what power looks like for women, rather than just mimicking the male model. It’s a perfect gift for college graduates or anyone starting their career in a competitive field. Not gonna lie, I teared up a bit during the parts about the 2016 election night because she captures that specific sense of betrayal so perfectly. It’s authentic, hopeful, and exactly the kind of heart-balm needed right now.

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Savannah

Finally got around to reading this and I'm so glad I did. Palmieri’s deep reflections on her time in politics are both painful and incredibly necessary. She believed until recently that the fight for equality was mostly won, but the 2016 loss forced a massive re-evaluation that she shares here with brutal honesty. The way she analyzes the double standards Clinton faced is both insightful and infuriating. This isn't a gossipy tell-all; it’s a forward-thinking framework for how we can do better next time. I loved that she encourages women to embrace their femininity as a political advantage rather than something to be hidden. It’s a short, powerful read that provides practical advice while staying optimistic about the future of the American presidency. Highly recommend it to anyone who wants to see the glass ceiling finally shatter for good.

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Vipawan

Ever wonder what it’s actually like to be in the room when history is being made? Palmieri gives us that and more in this short but incredibly powerful book. I bought this as a gift for my daughter who is entering law school, but I ended up reading the whole thing first because the prose is just so compelling. She speaks about 'playing by outdated rules' and why women shouldn't have to suppress their emotions or femininity to be taken seriously. The truth is, we need more books that are this optimistic about the future of leadership. It’s not just for political junkies; it’s for any woman who has ever felt like she had to be twice as good to get half as much credit. Truly an empowering read that stays with you long after the final page.

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Thitiwan

I really appreciated the authentic observations Palmieri shares about her time in the Obama White House and the Clinton campaign. Instead of a dry political recap, she offers a hopeful, forward-thinking framework for any woman navigating a male-dominated field. The conversational writing style makes complex campaign thinking feel accessible and deeply personal. It’s the kind of book you want to hand to every young woman you know who has big ambitions but feels limited by the 'old rules.' Got to say, the emotional weight of her 2016 experience adds a layer of depth that many other political books lack. It’s an empowering read that left me feeling optimistic about the next generation of leaders.

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Sirichai

What a refreshing and compelling read for anyone who needs a dose of hope in today’s political climate. Palmieri writes with such grace and intelligence, turning the pain of the 2016 loss into a series of beautiful, practical lessons for the future. I found the insights into gender dynamics particularly striking—she puts into words things many of us feel but can’t always articulate. It’s a short read, but it’s packed with heart and authenticity. Truly a must-read for graduates or anyone looking to lead with their own voice rather than following an outdated script. Personally, I think this is one of the most important books on women and power I’ve read in years.

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Tee

As someone who follows American politics closely, I found this to be a fascinating, if sometimes painful, deep dive into the 2016 campaign trail. Palmieri offers a unique perspective on 'campaign thinking' and the specific hurdles that women face when seeking high-level office. The book is short—almost more of an essay than a full-blown biography—which makes it very accessible for busy people. While she does spend a lot of time defending Hillary Clinton, her observations about gender double standards are undeniably sharp and authentic. Frankly, it’s worth reading just for the insights into how the media perceives female candidates versus their male counterparts. My only minor gripe is that I wanted more of the 'advice' sections and slightly less of the rehashing of old news. Still, it’s an important contribution to the conversation about women and power.

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Udom

The chapter on 'nodding' and how women are expected to behave in meetings hit way too close to home for me. Palmieri uses her time in the Clinton campaign to illustrate broader points about how gender dynamics play out in every professional setting, not just the White House. Personally, I found her reflections on Hillary to be quite touching, even if you don't agree with the politics. She writes with a level of authenticity that is rare in political books, admitting her own mistakes and her shock at the 2016 outcome. It’s a quick read, but it’s packed with emotion and a surprising amount of hope for what’s next. I think it’s a must-read for women of all ages who want to understand the invisible barriers that still exist in our culture. A really solid, insightful piece of work.

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Tun

This book is essentially a mini-memoir wrapped in the guise of advice, which is both its strength and its weakness. Palmieri is a talented communicator, and the conversational tone makes the pages fly by. I enjoyed learning about the behind-the-scenes world of the Obama and Clinton teams, but the advice to the 'future president' felt a bit thin. She argues that women should embrace their differences, which is a great sentiment, but it lacks a deeper dive into the 'how.' Look, it’s a decent insight into a specific moment in history, and her perspective as a campaign staffer is unique. However, if you aren't already a fan of the people she worked for, you'll probably find the praise for HRC a bit much. A quick, interesting read, but it didn't quite live up to the hype for me.

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Omar

Not what I expected when I first saw that title on the shelf. The subtitle suggests an inspiring guide for the next generation of female leaders, but the reality is much more focused on Palmieri’s personal grievances regarding the 2016 election loss. Look, I get that the results were a shock, but do we really need another book that treads the same ground as 'What Happened'? There are small kernels of wisdom about embracing femininity in male-dominated spaces, yet they are buried under layers of campaign anecdotes. Honestly, the structure felt a bit disjointed, jumping from White House memories to generic advice that didn't feel particularly revolutionary. It’s okay for a quick afternoon read if you’re a political junkie, but it definitely didn't leave me feeling empowered or ready to 'run the world' as promised.

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Palm

Picked this up during a 'hate-read' phase because I wanted to see what the 'resistance' crowd was actually thinking, but it was a total slog. It’s essentially a 170-page love letter to Hillary Clinton and a way for Palmieri to showcase her own resume. She keeps reminding us she was in the White House for over two decades, but where is the actual substance for future leaders? Instead of providing a blueprint for change, it feels like a bitter regurgitation of why 2016 went wrong without any real accountability. Calling it an 'Open Letter' to a future president is just a marketing gimmick to hide what is really just a campaign post-mortem. To be fair, her writing is fluid, but the content is so deeply entrenched in the status quo that it offers nothing to the grassroots movements actually trying to fix things. It’s a pass for me.

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Questions about this book

Jennifer Palmieri, communications director for Hillary Clinton’s 2016 campaign, writes an open letter to the women who will one day lead. She argues that sexism played a large part in Clinton’s defeat, and that women are judged by separate standards on ambition, appearance and emotion. Drawing on her years in the Bill Clinton and Obama White Houses, she offers lessons on speaking up, trusting your instincts and carrying on after a loss.

Her clearest example is the concession speech. Many in the media called it Clinton’s best moment and said it showed a softer side, even though she behaved as she had all campaign. The one difference, Palmieri says, was that she was graciously giving way to a man. Early in the race, experts had also warned Clinton that ambitious women are seen as selfish and pushy, so she had to frame her goals as service.

Speak your mind, even if you have to interrupt. In Bill Clinton’s staff meetings, Palmieri never saw anyone finish a sentence without being cut off. Obama made a point of asking quiet attendees, often women, for their views because he truly needed them. Palmieri’s rule is that if you act as though your opinion matters, other people will treat it as though it does.

She believes women feel extra pressure to stay stoic because their reactions to bad news are watched for signs of weakness. She held back tears on election night for that reason. Later, at a Harvard press conference, she cried while accusing the Trump campaign of racist rhetoric. She was criticized for it but has no regrets, and she argues that tears can be a show of strength.

Losing is not the same as being defeated. Palmieri says Clinton lost the election but was not defeated, because defeat only comes when you give up hope. Clinton kept getting up each day and going back out. Palmieri pairs this with habits for ambitious women: speak up, believe your opinions have value, and trust your heart as well as your head.

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