How to Be a Positive Leader: Small Actions, Big Impact
Jane E. Dutton
Shows how to spot when a colleague is struggling, read their situation fairly, imagine their side and then help, and how teams and leaders can build that habit into a workplace that performs better.

1 min 00 sec
If you lead people, or simply work beside them, the hardest moments of their lives will reach your workplace whether anyone plans for it or not. In Awakening Compassion at Work, researchers Monica C. Worline and Jane E. Dutton argue that the response matters for results too: one study they cite found that more compassionate workplaces were more productive and kept their clients and staff longer.
Their case is that compassion is a practice built from four steps anyone can learn. You notice that someone is struggling. You resist the quick judgment that shuts concern down. You picture the situation from their side. Then you do something about it. Teams and leaders can build those steps into how a company runs.
The evidence comes from real workplaces, from an eye hospital in India to a billing office in Nebraska. Each story ends with a move you can try with a colleague this week, and together they show what a company gains when helping becomes normal.
1 min 28 sec
An assistant who was brilliant at her job lost the very thing that made her good at it over a single weekend. A grieving employee had the opposite experience. The difference came down to one leader’s choice.
1 min 34 sec
A hospital chain in India gives away a third of its treatments and still makes money. A national poll after a terrorist attack found something similar inside ordinary companies. The link between them is not what skeptics expect.
1 min 32 sec
A reliable employee started missing work and nearly lost her job, while her real problem stayed secret. Her boss’s response, and a study at children’s summer camps, show what turns a warning sign into a chance to help.
1 min 35 sec
After a major storm hit New York, some companies reassured their staff while others blamed them and watched compassion sink. The split came from judgments made in a fraction of a second, before anyone realized they were judging at all.
1 min 34 sec
Our brains are built to sense when someone is hurting, yet coworkers often look away when a colleague is unfairly blamed. A law firm manager found a simple way to bring a frustrated boss’s empathy back.
1 min 29 sec
A grieving employee had to miss an important board meeting she was in the middle of preparing for. What one colleague did over the following days shows that the smallest gestures can matter as much as the grand ones.
1 min 34 sec
In a Nebraska office with few chances for promotion, colleagues dropped their coffee to clear one person’s overflowing desk in half an hour. That reflex did not happen by luck, and it can be copied.
1 min 29 sec
One chief executive gave every employee money to learn whatever they wanted, with no link to their job. Another wrote publicly about how hard compassionate leadership is. Both show how a leader’s example travels.
1 min 13 sec
Compassion, in Worline and Dutton’s account, is a craft. It runs from the moment someone notices a flushed face or an unusual absence, through the restraint to withhold blame, through the effort of imagining another person’s day, to a deed, whether that means covering a board meeting or sending one short message. A company can make that craft easier or harder. Patty’s Friday-night reassignment and Midwest Billing’s support pods are both design choices, and the authors argue the second kind leaves people less hurt and the business stronger, with better productivity and lower turnover.
The practice they propose is modest. Set aside time each week, even an hour, to think about what would make your workplace more compassionate, because good intentions tend to vanish in the rush of a busy day. If you manage others, recall a leader whose compassion moved you and ask whether you have followed that example. If you don’t, think back to a moment when you failed to act with compassion and ask whether a habit in your company made that easier.
Somewhere in your building, a pile of mail is waiting for someone to put down their coffee.
Most workplaces treat stress and personal pain as part of the deal: you leave your troubles at home and get on with the job. Monica C. Worline and Jane E. Dutton argue that much of this suffering is unnecessary, and that how a company responds to it shapes both its people and its results. Drawing on their own research visits and on studies by others, they describe compassion as a practice with clear steps. You notice that someone is suffering, often from small signs like an unusual absence. You resist the snap judgments that switch concern off. You imagine the situation from the other person's position. Then you act, through a large gesture or a small daily one. The stories range from an eye hospital chain in India that treats a third of its patients for free and still profits, to a billing office in Nebraska where colleagues drop everything to clear a buried desk. Readers get a practical way to respond when a coworker is grieving, failing or quietly overwhelmed, plus ideas for designing teams and leading in ways that make helping the normal thing to do.
Managers who want to respond well when an employee is grieving, struggling or suddenly underperforming.
Founders and HR leaders looking for ways to build teams where helping each other is the normal thing to do.
Employees who sense their workplace has grown cold and want to start changing it themselves.
Monica C. Worline founded and leads EnlivenWork, which teaches businesses to draw on courage, compassionate leadership and curiosity. She is a research scientist at Stanford University's Center for Compassion and Altruism Research and Education and Executive Director of CompassionLab at the University of Michigan. Jane E. Dutton is the Robert L. Kahn Distinguished University Professor of Business Administration and Psychology at the University of Michigan, co-founded its Center for Positive Organizations and has written over 100 papers on topics including compassion at work.
Jane E. Dutton
Listeners describe the work as captivating and skillfully written, with one person noting its approachable, conversational tone. Furthermore, the quality of the research is highly regarded; one listener emphasizes how it distills decades of study and offers two invaluable sets of roadmaps. Listeners also appreciate how the text fosters empathy within organizations and promotes emotional intelligence, while remaining both functional and beneficial.
Finally, a business book that recognizes we aren't just cogs in a machine! I found this to be an incredibly moving and intellectually stimulating read that should be mandatory for every MBA program. The way the authors unpack the quiet power of compassion is nothing short of brilliant, showing how it elevates both the individual and the entire organization. We live in such a fast-paced, often cold world, so reading a text that validates the fundamental dignity of all people feels like a breath of fresh air. The case study about the ten-year employee who hit a rough patch really resonated with me because it highlights how much we lose when we choose 'efficiency' over humanity. This book doesn't just encourage you to feel; it empowers you to take action and change the systems you work within. It is a rare gift to find authors who write with such passion, intelligence, and a dash of spunk. This is a five-star contribution to the world of work.
Show moreLook, I’ve read my fair share of 'fluffy' HR books, but Worline and Dutton actually back their claims with years of rigorous research and clear, actionable blueprints. This isn't just a collection of feel-good stories; it is a serious look at how compassion acts as a catalyst for resilience and innovation. The authors provide two invaluable sets of roadmaps—one for the individual and one for the organization—that help you understand exactly where your strengths and weaknesses lie. I was particularly struck by the idea that compassion is a collective effort rather than just an individual burden. When an organization has 'high compassion competence,' it can respond to suffering with a speed and magnitude that a single person never could. The prose is approachable and engaging, making it easy to see how these principles apply to your own office. It’s an amazing contribution to the field and a must-read for anyone who wants to lead with both their head and their heart.
Show moreEver wonder why some offices feel like morgues while others thrive despite high pressure? This book provides the answer by looking at how we handle human suffering. I loved how the authors took the concept of compassion and broke it down into four distinct, trainable steps that anyone can learn. The research quality is top-notch, yet the book never feels like a dry academic text because the tone is so warm and conversational. It challenges the old 'macho' way of doing business and suggests that a more empathetic, feminine approach is actually what leads to long-term success. The blueprints for awakening compassion are incredibly practical, offering clear next steps for anyone ready to make a change. I felt empowered after reading this, realizing that I don't have to check my humanity at the door when I clock in. This is a critical foundational piece of literature that will hopefully change the way we think about work for years to come.
Show moreAs someone who consults for mid-sized firms, the roadmaps provided in the latter half of this book are actually quite invaluable for systemic change. We often treat emotional intelligence as a soft skill that individuals either have or they don't, but this text argues it's a competence that can be built into the very fabric of an organization. The authors move beyond simple 'be nice' platitudes to offer a rigorous empirical grounding for why compassion actually drives productivity and lowers turnover. I particularly liked the focus on how legal and HR departments can shift from a defensive stance to one that acknowledges human dignity. While some of the case studies felt a bit brief, the overall message is powerful: compassion is a functional requirement for any group that wants to learn and adapt in a high-stress environment. It isn't just about feeling good; it is about building a social architecture that allows people to do their best work without being crushed by the system.
Show moreThe authors do a fantastic job of illustrating how 'noticing' suffering is the essential portal to changing a toxic office culture. I’ve worked in environments where people were afraid to even mention a family emergency for fear of looking 'uncommitted,' and this book explains exactly why that is a recipe for disaster. By using a blend of academic findings and real-world examples, Worline and Dutton prove that a compassionate response actually strengthens the entire team. Not gonna lie, some of the examples about coworkers donating their own resources to help each other made me wish the companies themselves would do more, but the underlying theory is sound. It’s a well-written piece of literature that makes an undeniable case for empathy as a competitive advantage. I would recommend this to any manager who feels like their team is burning out. The conversational tone makes the heavy research much more digestible than your standard business textbook, and the practical blueprints are ready to be implemented immediately.
Show moreAfter hearing a lot about 'Positive Organizational Scholarship,' I decided to dive into this book to see if it lived up to the hype. Personally, I was impressed by how the authors managed to take a concept that is usually dismissed as 'fluff' and turn it into a concrete set of competencies. They don't just say compassion is good; they show you how to design routines and networks that make it a part of daily work. The chapter on leading for compassion was especially eye-opening, as it highlights how leaders must create the space for others to act compassionately. There are some minor criticisms to be made regarding the pacing, and a few sections felt a bit repetitive, but the overall impact is significant. It provides a bridge between the heart and the bottom line that most business books completely miss. If you want to foster a culture of psychological safety where employees feel seen and valued, this is a fantastic place to start.
Show moreThe framework here is undeniably solid, but the execution left me wanting a bit more cohesion throughout the middle chapters. Worline and Dutton have clearly put in the work to unpack years of psychological research, focusing on the four steps of noticing, interpreting, feeling, and acting. Truth be told, I appreciated the self-assessment tools at the end more than the actual text of the chapters themselves. The 'social architecture' concept is interesting, though it occasionally gets buried under too much jargon and corporate-speak that might alienate a casual reader. I found myself nodding along to the ideas of psychological safety while simultaneously checking how many pages were left because the pacing is quite slow. It’s a decent resource for HR professionals or consultants who want a rigorous model, but for the average manager, it might feel like a bit of a grind. It is a necessary contribution to the field that just happens to be a very dense read.
Show morePicked this up on Audible and, truth be told, the structure made it difficult to follow without having the physical charts in front of me. The authors are clearly brilliant, and their passion for humanizing the workplace shines through, but the book feels like an expanded academic paper rather than a conversational guide. I found the section on 'interpreting suffering' to be the most useful, as it challenges us to stop jumping to negative conclusions when an employee's performance suddenly slips. We often assume someone is being lazy when they might be dealing with a personal crisis, and that shift in perspective is valuable. However, the book tends to repeat itself quite a bit, making it feel longer than its page count would suggest. It provides a good roadmap, but you have to be willing to sit through a lot of theory to get to the actionable parts. It is a three-star experience for a five-star concept.
Show moreNot what I expected from the title, as I found the narrative structure remarkably fragmented and difficult to stay engaged with for more than ten minutes. While the core idea that we should be nicer to each other at work is fine, the execution here feels like a dry academic slog masquerading as a business guide. In my experience, the best leadership books tell a cohesive story, but this one relies on dozens of tiny, underdeveloped case studies that never truly breathe. To be fair, the research mentioned seems legitimate, yet the authors fail to synthesize it into something that feels urgent or alive. I also tried the audio version and it was a mistake; the narrator’s tone was so clinical that it made the already dense material feel even more like a robotic lecture. If you are looking for practical, high-energy advice on team building, you should probably look elsewhere. It’s an important subject, but the delivery is just too muddled to be effective.
Show moreWait, so we are actually expected to just accept that companies won't pay a living wage? I found the examples in this book absolutely infuriating and fundamentally regressive. The authors describe a scenario where a struggling mother receives anonymous groceries from a coworker as if it’s a beautiful triumph of the human spirit. Frankly, it is a systemic failure of the organization to pay its employees enough to eat. Why is the burden of compassion placed on the low-level worker rather than the executives who set the salary scales? Then there is the story about employees donating their own hard-earned PTO so a sick colleague can recover without losing their house. That isn't 'awakening compassion'; it is a corporate shell game that lets the company avoid providing basic short-term disability. This book provides a blueprint for shifting responsibility away from power and onto the backs of those with the least. I felt like I was being gaslit by a management manual.
Show moreMonica C. Worline and Jane E. Dutton argue that much suffering at work is unnecessary and that compassion is a learnable practice. It involves noticing when someone is struggling, resisting snap judgments that shut concern down, imagining the other person’s view and then acting. The authors also show that compassionate workplaces tend to be more productive and keep clients and staff longer, citing research by Kim Cameron and a Gallup poll taken after the September 11 attacks.
The authors say yes. Kim Cameron’s 2004 research found that more compassionate workplaces were more productive and better at keeping clients and employees. After the September 11 attacks, a Gallup poll found engagement rose sharply at companies that responded with compassion. The Aravind Eye hospitals in India treated a third of their patients for free by 2011 and stayed profitable because high-quality care also attracted patients who could pay more.
The book recommends inquiry and curiosity. People often hide personal trouble, so warning signs appear as behavior that is out of character, like the insurance employee Dorothy’s sudden absences while her husband was in the hospital. Her boss, Sandeep, asked her to explain the situation instead of scolding her. A study at camps for children of parents with cancer found that training counselors to ask gentle questions reduced conflict.
The authors describe three split-second judgments. The first decides someone caused their own suffering, so blame replaces empathy. The second decides the person doesn’t deserve concern. The third decides you lack the time or energy to help. Their advice is to make slow judgment a habit: when someone is late or makes a mistake, pause and look for the cause, as some companies did with staff affected by Hurricane Sandy.
Midwest Billing in Omaha, Nebraska, offers the book’s main model. It organized staff into small subunits so people knew each other personally, hired for fit with existing groups, and created support pods that stepped in wherever workloads piled up, also using them to train new hires. Leaders matter too: HopeLab’s Pat Christen funded each employee’s personal learning, and LinkedIn’s Jeff Weiner wrote openly about leading compassionately.
Joseph A. Maciariello
Deborah Gruenfeld
Mike Michalowicz
AUDIO SUMMARY AVAILABLE
Get the key ideas from Awakening Compassion at Work by Monica C. Worline, plus 5,000+ more nonfiction titles.
