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Remember Love: Words for Tender Times

A gentle guide in prose and poetry for anyone thrown by a breakup, loss, burnout or big change. It treats feeling lost as a beginning and suggests ways to come back to yourself.

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If life has shifted under you through a breakup, a loss, a move or plain exhaustion, feeling lost can seem like proof that you failed. In Remember Love, poet and artist Cleo Wade argues the opposite. Getting lost is part of living, and it is often where a new beginning starts. Writing in a mix of prose and poetry, she treats lostness as temporary, a dark stretch that leads toward self-discovery, connection and growth.

Her claim, and the thread through everything here, is that love works like a compass home. That means love for yourself and for the people worth keeping. The compass only works if you stop hurrying, accept being OK instead of perfect, and let others care for you. Wade does not pose as someone with answers. She sees her role as keeping readers company while they wrestle with their own questions.

What follows gives you a few of her questions to carry with you: whether something is falling apart or falling away, who holds you while you hold everyone else, and what you want more than the thing you are clinging to.

The moment you feel most cut off from yourself may be the one that matters most. Wade uses a bird, the moon and one short question to show why that dark stretch is often where something begins.

Rest can feel like falling behind, and recovery can sound like catching up on everything you missed. Wade questions both ideas, and one small edit from her editor shows what she would rather you do with an afternoon.

Doing your best sounds like healthy advice until it becomes one more test you keep failing. Wade suggests a smaller standard, and her images of mountains, songs and sunrises explain why it may serve you better.

There is an app, a podcast or a five-step plan for almost every pain. Wade argues a broken heart does not work that way, and she explains why the friends you party with may not be the ones you need.

Every family has someone who plans, listens and never drops a ball, and everyone praises them for it. Wade suggests that praise may be the trap, and she offers a rule about limits that frees them.

Some relationships keep grinding long after they stop giving anything back. Wade offers a way to tell whether a bond needs new terms, an apology or an ending, and a question that makes leaving easier.

Remember Love reads like a letter from a friend who has been lost too. Wade wrote it during the pandemic, when she was worn out, and she believes the world is short on people who make things purely to comfort those around them. She has one rule for her writing. Her mother and her mother’s friends in Louisiana must be able to feel a piece, or it stays out. That rule explains the book’s plain tenderness. It offers less a method than company.

What it adds up to is a new way to read hard seasons. Being lost becomes a beginning. Slowness becomes a form of care. OK becomes enough. Love, for yourself and for the people worth keeping, becomes the compass that points you home.

The practice it supports is small. When something ends, ask whether it is falling apart or falling away. Move your fear to the back seat, and let each morning start over the way the earth does with every sunrise. When you notice you have become the glue for everyone, let someone hold you for a while.

One line in the book asks readers to remember love, and to remember that they have wings and can fly. Like the bird Wade describes, you will not always glide. You only need to remember that flight is still possible.

About this book

What is this book about?

Breakups, grief, burnout and big life changes can leave people feeling like strangers to themselves. Most of the advice they hear tells them to fix it quickly. Cleo Wade, a poet and artist, argues for the opposite. Getting lost is part of living, she says, and the dark stretch is often where something new begins. Remember Love mixes prose and poetry and moves through four themes: being lost, self-love through heartbreak, the relief of being OK, and the strength it takes to let go. Wade criticizes hustle culture and the habit of trying to hack every hard feeling. Healing, she says, needs time, art and people who stay. She gives readers images and questions they can keep: fear moved to the back seat, the new moon as the darkest night before a change, and soul contracts that sometimes need new terms or an ending. Readers get comfort along with practical questions for hard seasons. Is this falling apart or falling away? Who holds me while I hold everyone else? What do I want more than the thing I am holding onto?

Book Information

Rating:

Genre:

Personal Development

Topics:

Resilience, Self-Compassion, Self-Esteem

Publisher:

Penguin Random House

Language:

English

Narrator:

Luke

First published:

December 2, 2025

Pages:

256

Length:

13 min 22 sec

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Who it's for

  • Adults facing upheaval

    People in the middle of a breakup, a loss or a big life change who feel like strangers to themselves.

  • Exhausted professionals and caregivers

    Burned-out professionals and caregivers who are tired of hustle culture and of holding everyone together.

  • Those wanting comforting words

    Readers who want comfort in poetry and prose along with a few practical questions for hard days.

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About the Author

Cleo Wade

Cleo Wade is an American poet, artist, activist and New York Times bestselling author, born and raised in New Orleans and now living in California with her partner and their two daughters. Her books, including Heart Talk, Where to Begin and Remember Love, have been translated into more than 15 languages. Her large-scale art has been installed in public spaces in Los Angeles, Boston, Toronto and New Orleans. She has spoken at the White House, the United Nations and Harvard University, and her TED Talk is about how small acts can lead to big change.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

3.8

Overall score based on 30 ratings.

What people think

Listeners find the book heartening, with one individual sharing how it supported their healing after a traumatic heartbreak. The volume is gorgeous and offers various poems, with one listener noting its accessibility for anyone in search of comfort. Listeners appreciate the caliber of writing, as one person pointed out how relatable the prose feels.

Top reviews

Boss

Picked this up during a particularly heavy week and it felt like the literary equivalent of a deep exhale. Cleo Wade has this incredible ability to weave together poetry and prose in a way that feels like a conversation with your most compassionate friend. In my experience, many books in this genre can feel preachy, but this one remains grounded in the reality that life is often messy and painful. I found the section on recovering from heartbreak to be especially poignant, offering a sense of solace that I haven't found elsewhere. Look, she isn't reinventing the wheel here, but she is reminding us of the basic human truths we often forget when we are drowning in stress. It is a beautiful, uplifting lifeline for anyone navigating a season of transition or loss. I truly appreciated how accessible the language was, making the profound feel reachable. This is a volume I intend to keep on my nightstand for those mornings when the world feels a bit too loud.

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Darawan

After hearing so much about Wade’s previous work, I finally dove into this collection and found it incredibly restorative. The writing strikes a delicate yet powerful chord that resonates deeply if you’ve ever felt lost in the shuffle of a major life change. It is rare to find an author who can mimic the comfort of legends like Mary Oliver while staying so contemporary and relatable. Each sparse line carries a weight that forced me to slow down and actually process my feelings rather than just skimming through. Personally, the focus on self-care as a communal act rather than just a selfish one was a highlight. This book helped me navigate the tail end of a traumatic situation with a bit more grace and a lot more self-compassion. It is a stunning, tactile reminder that healing is rarely linear but always possible. I would highly recommend this to anyone seeking a bit of light.

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Brahim

Wow, I didn't expect a book of prose to act as such a sturdy anchor during my current season of change. Wade manages to explore themes of self-love and healing without ever falling into the trap of toxic positivity. She acknowledges the darkness of the world and the reality of grief, yet she still points toward the sun. This collection is a beautiful offering of poetry and light that feels deeply personal and yet universally applicable. I was particularly enchanted by the way she describes the journey of finding peace after a friendship breakup, a topic that isn't discussed nearly enough. Every page feels like a love letter to the reader's soul. The brevity of her writing is its greatest strength, allowing the meaning to settle in your chest. It’s the kind of book you don’t just read once and put away. You keep it close, like a trusted advisor or a cherished heirloom.

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Phimwan

Reading 'Remember Love' feels like sitting across from a wise friend who isn't afraid to let you sit in the dark for a moment before helping you find the light. Cleo Wade is so skilled with words, saying everything she needs to say in just a few sparse, affecting lines. This book is a beautiful reminder of the significance of love and self-care in our daily lives, especially when we feel fragmented. It’s a warm hug in literary form, providing a sense of steadiness and groundedness that is hard to find elsewhere. I found myself moved to tears by a few of the passages regarding letting go of the past. Her writing strikes a powerful chord, exploring healing and resilience with a grace that feels almost effortless. This is a must-read for anyone who needs to be guided back to their own heart. Truly a beautiful, immersive experience from start to finish.

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Duangjai

As someone who has struggled to find accessible poetry that doesn't feel overly academic, Wade's writing is a breath of fresh air. Her words are incredibly relatable, especially when she discusses the strength found in the journey of letting go. This collection served as a beautiful lifeline for me during a period of transition that felt scary and uncertain. There is a poignancy in her simplicity that makes the messages stick with you long after you’ve closed the book. Personally, I think this is her best work yet, as it feels more grounded and immersive than her previous collections. It’s an uplifting and positive way to refocus on what actually matters: love, community, and self-kindness. If you’re looking for a book that offers solace without being overly complicated, this is it. It really is a gift to the reader.

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Nathan

Not every page was a revelation, but the ones that landed really hit home for me during a tough month. To be fair, some of the shorter poems do lean a bit into that 'Pinterest quote' aesthetic, which might not be for everyone. However, the overarching message of resilience and finding light in the darkness is handled with such gentleness that it's hard not to be moved. I’ve followed her since Heart Talk and this feels like a natural, more mature progression of her voice. The way she addresses the weariness of the world while maintaining a sense of community is refreshing. Frankly, we all need a reminder to be tender with ourselves occasionally, even if the advice seems like common sense. It’s a breezy read, yet I found myself dog-earing several pages to return to later. It isn't a complex academic text, but it is a warm, necessary hug in book form.

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Aisha

The chapter on letting go was exactly the nudge I needed to stop ruminating on things entirely outside of my control. Cleo Wade writes with a simplicity and poignancy that is incredibly welcome during these chaotic times. While I did find a few sections a bit repetitive, the general flow of the book is gentle and immersive. It doesn't demand much of the reader, which is perfect for when you are emotionally exhausted and just need some quiet encouragement. Truth is, the most basic reminders—like the fact that pain heals with time—are the ones we ignore the most. Her words act as a balm, smoothing over the jagged edges of a bad day. I loved the mix of prose and shorter verse, as it kept the pacing feeling light and airy. It’s a solid addition to any shelf dedicated to emotional wellness and self-reflection.

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Maya

Truth is, I usually steer clear of the self-help shelf because the advice often feels clinical or detached, but this was different. Wade’s voice is warm and grounded, making her suggestions feel like they’re coming from a place of genuine understanding. She doesn’t claim to have all the answers, which I find incredibly refreshing. Instead, she offers a sense of steady companionship for those navigating the valleys of life. Some might find the simplicity a bit much, but I think there is a certain bravery in being that direct. I appreciated the focus on 'tender times' and the importance of holding space for our own vulnerability. It’s an uplifting read that doesn’t ignore the social upheaval we are all experiencing. While not every poem resonated, the ones that did provided a significant amount of comfort. It’s a solid four-star read that I’ll likely gift to friends.

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Niphon

Ever wonder why we need to be told the things we already know deep down? I think it’s because it’s so easy to lose sight of the basics when life gets overwhelming. 'Remember Love' provides those simple, yet important reminders that can make a hard day just a smidge easier to handle. Wade’s mission is one of empowerment, and she succeeds in making the reader feel seen and supported. I’ll admit that a few parts felt a little too simplistic for my taste, but the overall impact was very positive. The book has a gentle fluidity that makes it a breezy read for a Sunday afternoon. It’s the kind of collection you can dip in and out of whenever you need a quick boost of motivation. Not every line is a masterpiece, but the heart behind the work is undeniable. It’s a comforting presence for any nightstand.

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Ryan

Is it possible for a book to be too gentle for its own good? I really wanted to love this given the high ratings, but much of it felt like cringey Tumblr quotes about self-love that I've seen a thousand times before. To be fair, Cleo Wade has a lovely spirit and her mission of empowerment is undeniably noble. But if you are looking for deep, analytical insights or complex poetic structures, you won't find them here. It is very much 'Self-Help 101' wrapped in pretty packaging. That said, I can see why it appeals to so many people who are going through a crisis and just need something soft to land on. The sentiments are nice, and the writing is certainly accessible to anyone seeking solace. It just didn't quite have the intellectual or emotional depth I was hoping for after the hype.

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Questions about this book

Remember Love is a mix of prose and poetry about hard seasons of life. Wade argues that getting lost is part of living and is often a beginning. Loving yourself is what carries you through it. The book moves through four themes: being lost, self-love through heartbreak, the relief of being OK, and the strength it takes to let go.

It suits people going through a breakup, grief, burnout or a major transition who want comfort instead of a quick fix. It also speaks to people who hold everyone else together, and to recovering perfectionists. Wade describes her role as a friend who stays with readers in their questions, so the book does not promise to have every answer.

Wade puts being OK ahead of doing your best. She warns that perfectionism can get in the way of keeping up a practice. She wants readers to pause and find that OK is enough. She contrasts balance, which turns life into a scale, with harmony, which turns life into a song where every sound has its place.

When something ends, ask whether it is falling apart or falling away. Move fear and self-doubt to the back seat instead of trying to remove them. Treat each day as a fresh start. During grief, choose a healing circle of people who handle you gently. If a relationship feels stuck, decide whether it needs new terms, an apology or an ending.

Wade uses soul contracts to describe connections meant to exist in a certain form for a certain length of time. When a relationship is full of constant friction, the contract may need new terms or may need to end. To make leaving easier, she suggests asking what you want more than this person, and she accepts that walking away may take many attempts.

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