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Mastermind Dinners: Build Lifelong Relationships by Connecting Experts, Influencers and Linchpins

Shows how to grow a small, loyal network by hosting dinners for four to eight carefully chosen people. It covers who to invite first, where to hold the evening and how to write invitations that get accepted.

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If your network is a long list of online contacts who would never pick up the phone for you, Jayson Gaignard has a plain fix: invite a few of the right people to dinner. In Mastermind Dinners, the Canadian entrepreneur and networking specialist argues that real relationships form face to face, over a shared meal in a relaxed room. He adds that whoever hosts that meal ends up at the center of the connections it creates.

His case is that a strong network comes from showing up as yourself and deliberately bringing together people who will click. A small, well-planned dinner is the best tool he knows for doing both.

Gaignard learned this after a business that made him rich also made him ill. From there he builds a working method. It covers why depth beats reach and how to land guests who seem out of your league. It also covers where to hold the evening, and the small choices, from an email subject line to the number of chairs, that decide whether the night works.

A young founder earned more than twenty times the average salary and still ended up sick and isolated. What he was missing had nothing to do with money, and it shaped everything he built afterward.

Thousands of followers can look like a powerful network. Gaignard argues the numbers can mislead you, and that the attitude you bring to every contact matters more than the tools you use to reach them.

Higher-level guests may be slow to RSVP, and most people prefer to network with others like themselves. Gaignard describes a simple ordering trick that turns early guests into the reason later, harder-to-reach guests say yes.

A dinner near home and a dinner in another city build very different networks. Gaignard explains how to choose between them, and how a crowded trade show can bring your ideal guests right to you.

A personal assistant can block your invitation before the guest ever sees it, and one extra chair can quietly ruin the conversation. Gaignard’s attention to small details decides whether the evening works.

Gaignard’s own image for the host is the spider at the center of a web. He started as a well-paid founder working alone, with a body already showing the strain. The book promises that hosting such dinners can make you the hub of a network that, local or global, brings you support and new opportunities. The change did not come from more accounts or more events. It came from deciding to be the person who brings others together, and from treating an ordinary dinner as something worth designing.

That design fits on a napkin. Decide first whether you want people near home or contacts in one field, and pick a local evening or one timed to a conference to match. Invite the guests most likely to accept before the ones you most want, so the early yeses draw in the later ones. Write a short email with the guest’s first name in the subject line, and stop at eight chairs. Then do the work most hosts skip. Learn enough about each guest to find the unusual thing two of them share, and seat them side by side.

A network is not something you collect. You build it, one dinner at a time.

About this book

What is this book about?

Many professionals have hundreds of online contacts and still feel they have no real network. Jayson Gaignard learned this the hard way. His ticket sales business made him far richer than average, but by 23 stress had given him kidney problems, and the work had pulled him away from building a business that made him happy. What changed things for him was a habit he now teaches: hosting small dinners that bring the right people together. Mastermind Dinners argues that relationships form best around a shared meal, and that the person who hosts the meal ends up at the center of the connections it creates. Gaignard starts with attitude. Be honest about who you are, value depth over numbers, and stop treating a peer's success as your loss. Then he gets practical: how to bring in influential guests by inviting the likely yeses first, when to host near home and when to time a dinner to a conference, and how to write an email invitation that gets past an assistant. Readers get a simple, repeatable format for building relationships with experts and influencers, even those who seem out of reach today.

Book Information

Rating:

Genre:

Career & Success, Communication & Social Skills

Topics:

Networking, Social Skills

Publisher:

MastermindTalks.com

Language:

English

Narrator:

Meredith

First published:

December 22, 2014

Pages:

102

Length:

11 min 36 sec

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Who it's for

  • Founders feeling cut off

    Entrepreneurs and founders who work long hours and feel cut off from peers.

  • Professionals aiming higher

    Ambitious professionals who want access to executives or experts above their current level.

  • Done with shallow networking

    People tired of shallow online networking who want a few relationships that actually matter.

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About the Author

Jayson Gaignard

Jayson Gaignard is a Canadian entrepreneur and author who specializes in networking. In 2013 he founded MastermindTalks, a conference for entrepreneurs that people can attend only by invitation. He also hosts a business podcast on iTunes that has earned strong ratings, and his work has been featured by Forbes, Life Hacker and Business Insider.

Ratings & Reviews

Ratings at a glance

3.7

Overall score based on 32 ratings.

What people think

Listeners consider this title an exceptional blueprint that provides deep wisdom and practical steps for developing significant bonds. They highly value the material, with one listener mentioning it is packed with thousands of dollars' worth of knowledge. The text offers functional networking instruction, and one listener refers to it as a manual for becoming a superconnector.

Top reviews

Isabelle

Finally got around to reading Gaignard’s guide, and I’m genuinely impressed by how much punch is packed into such a slim volume. Many business books are bloated with useless fluff, but this feels like a tactical blueprint for high-level relationship building. It provides a specific manual for those wanting to transition from a standard networker to a true superconnector. Frankly, the advice on curated guest lists is worth more than most expensive seminars I’ve attended. If you follow the steps, the ROI on this tiny volume is immense. You can finish it in an hour, but you’ll be thinking about the strategy for months. It’s a must-read for anyone serious about high-stakes social engineering.

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Priya

As someone who has always struggled with the transactional feel of modern business networking, finding this playbook was a breath of fresh air. It shifts the focus from 'what can I get' to 'how can I add value.' The concept of the Mastermind Dinner is brilliant because it creates a safe space for authentic connection rather than just pitch-fests. I've already started my list of potential invites. Personally, I think the author’s focus on being the gatekeeper of your own network is the most important takeaway. Surround yourself with people who challenge you. This book is a short but powerful manual for becoming a person of influence through generosity and curation.

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Tang

Mastermind Dinners completely shifted my perspective on what it means to be a value-provider in my professional circle. I’ve already implemented a few of the suggestions for a small group I run, and the feedback has been incredible. This isn't just a book about eating; it’s a manual for becoming a superconnector in a world that is increasingly lonely. The actionable advice on how to select guests and seed conversations is pure gold. Some might find it too short, but I value my time and appreciate that Gaignard didn't include 300 pages of fluff. This is a fantastic playbook that delivers exactly what it promises. I feel much more confident about hosting my first large event now.

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Orathai

Ever wonder why some people seem to know everyone in their industry while you’re stuck trading business cards at stale mixers? This book offers a refreshing alternative to that plastic way of networking. To be fair, you probably need to be a bit of a socially aggressive connector to actually pull this off, but the roadmap is solid. Gaignard emphasizes the idea of being a gatekeeper, ensuring your inner circle is high-quality and curated. I particularly liked the section on finding niche connections among guests to spark real chemistry. My only gripe is that it feels a bit short, almost like a long-form blog post. However, the actionable nature of the advice makes up for the lack of page count.

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Suthee

The chapter on 'uncommon commonalities' alone makes this worth the price of admission, even if the rest of the book feels a bit light. It's a very practical networking guide for people who want to move away from digital connections and back into real-life interactions. I’ve read plenty of business books, but few provide such a clear, step-by-step manual for event hosting. You have to assume total responsibility for the room, which is a daunting but necessary task for any aspiring superconnector. The writing style is casual and easy to digest. I would have liked a bit more data to back up the success stories, but the tactical advice is hard to argue with.

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Ratchanee

After hearing about Jayson's legendary events for years, I was curious to see if he’d actually reveal his secrets or just tease them. The result is a concise, high-impact guide that cuts straight to the chase about how to facilitate meaningful connections. It isn't a literary masterpiece, but it serves its purpose as a practical playbook for those tired of transactional networking. Personally, I think the advice on the 'responsibility of the host' is the most valuable part. It reminds you that being a connector isn't just about knowing people; it's about curating environments where they can thrive. While some parts feel a bit like a motivational speech, the specific dinner logistics are gems. Worth the quick read for anyone looking to level up their social capital.

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Valentina

This book is basically a double-spaced high school essay that somehow managed to get published, but that doesn't mean the core message is worthless. The beginning is heavy on unsubstantiated claims about success which I found tedious. However, once he gets into the nitty-gritty of hosting the actual meal, it gets much better. In my experience, most people overcomplicate events, so having a simple playbook is helpful. It’s a very brief read, taking about an hour from start to finish. If you’re looking for a deep dive into social psychology, keep looking. But if you want a quick spark of motivation to start your own mastermind group, this is an okay choice for a lazy afternoon.

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Kru

Gotta say, I finished this in about forty-five minutes and felt both inspired and slightly underwhelmed. The premise is simple: host dinners for interesting people to change your life. It’s half motivation and half practical tips, but neither section feels fully fleshed out. To be fair, the brevity is part of the appeal if you just want something quick for your monthly reading goal. I liked the idea of looking for shared interests that aren't obvious at first. It makes the dinner feel less like a business meeting and more like a gathering of friends. It’s a decent starting point, but you’ll have to do the heavy lifting yourself.

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Jiraporn

Not what I expected given the hype, as most of the 'groundbreaking' insights here are things anyone with a bit of social awareness already knows. The text is stretched out like a freshman's mid-term paper, filled with personal anecdotes that don't always land. It’s essentially a novella that could have been a three-page PDF. Truth is, the advice is quite elementary for anyone who has ever hosted a successful party. While I appreciate the sentiment that relationships matter most, I was looking for more technical strategies on high-level networking. It’s not a complete waste of time since it’s so short, but don’t expect a masterclass.

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Brooklyn

Look, hosting a dinner party isn't rocket science, and I'm not convinced I needed a whole book to tell me that gathering smart people is a good idea. The author’s personal anecdotes feel stretched out, and the unique points are few and far between. Most of the networking advice is elementary at best. If you have any social intuition, you’ll find yourself skimming through the first half. It’s essentially a novella of common sense wrapped in a bit of hype. Not gonna lie, I expected something much deeper given the recommendations from big-name entrepreneurs. There are a couple of okay tips on guest selection, but nothing groundbreaking.

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Questions about this book

Jayson Gaignard argues that real professional relationships are built face to face, and that hosting small dinners is the best way to build them. By choosing guests carefully and introducing people who will click, the host becomes the center of a network that keeps producing support and opportunities. He pairs this with an attitude: be honest about who you are, value a few deep connections over thousands of shallow ones, and celebrate your peers’ wins.

Gaignard recommends inviting the guests most likely to accept first. Once a group of interesting people has confirmed, harder-to-reach guests find it easier to say yes. Because people prefer to meet others like themselves, a non-CEO who wants a CEO dinner should first secure one or two CEOs. They act as bait and as a social guarantee that the evening is worth attending, and word spreads over time.

Gaignard suggests four to eight guests. A small table lets everyone speak and be heard. Too few guests becomes awkward if some cancel, leaving the host with a nearly empty table. More than eight tends to split the group into separate conversations that are hard to steer, and it costs more because you may need a private room. In his view, nine is one too many.

Use email, but carefully. Put the guest’s first name in a personalized subject line so the message gets past assistants and reaches the person. Keep the message brief and open with a straight question that offers a complimentary dinner among people with similar interests. A simple offer makes agreement more probable, and even a refusal gives you a way in for a later invitation.

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